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Sorry about your son, same with mine car accident, and my grandson,and granddaughter are both named after him. May the joy you have with the other love ones help you thru this day. Only way I get thru them, yes the tears will come....
Maybe your family really things the books are what you want.I would let them know you would be excited to get a suprise gift,and since they are family they will know your likes and dislikes.Some people are afraid to disappoint and so they get exactly what you might mention in passing.
When I was younger I used to circle things in ads,so people knew what I would want.These days I don't expect anything though I hear I am getting a paper shredder and am happy about that. My mom has everything so she is hard to buy for,but usually I get different seeds for her since she has a greenhouse...then I benefit from extra seedlings!
Silly gift but I would be happy to get a dish rack that fits my sink,and I always tell dh to get me dirt for mother's day instead of cut flowers.
Just let your family know how your feeling and what the holiday expectations are for you....before the big day.Don't want to argue on a holiday!
This year, it sucked. It's the second Christmas without my mom. My boyfriend left AR early, around 10AM so that he could get things ready for when I came home after work, at 7PM. Needless to say, I didn't make it home. They closed the turnpikes and 540 last night to keep people safe. I was going to try to go back home for Christmas, but with the roads closed, I'm out of luck. I have to work early tomorrow.
So, I'm alone for Christmas, have nothing but Mac & Cheese and get to remember that I didn't get to go to Thanksgiving either because I had to work. I was going to put a wreath on my mom's grave, but that didn't work out because her site is in OK. But, I am safe and the electricity is still on.
This is also the first year without the "head of the family". Both of my grandparents from one side died this past year, sorry...just sucks. It is a white Christmas, and the dogs haven't opened their presents yet!
Mine sounds disappointing, but really isn't. My dad is spending Christmat out of state with my brother, as I was supposed to work last night. Since we were having a blizzard and my commute is an hour each way, I opted to call in. So, I spent Christmas Eve, and will spend Christmas, completely alone except for the dogs. But overall, it's ok. I am grateful to have a job, home, family and friends that love me. I am snowed-in alone with the dogs and chickens, and that's ok. I'm gonna go make a big cup of cocoa and head back to bed. Merry Christmas!
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Sometimes things do not work out as we have planned. The fact that your Mother, Father and other family members are alive and well should be comforting to you. Some of us are not as lucky. Christmas is NOT about getting presents. The fact that someone got you a present at 18 is wonderful and you should be appreciative for that. This is regardless of how much time you think they put into picking out your gift. The fact is, they got you a gift and that is just great.
My rule of thumb is to NEVER expect someone to do or act a certain way. Don't EVER compare your actions with theirs. Get your enjoyment out of giving something you took time and thought to give. Don't worry about others not recripricating.
You should feel lucky and blessed that you have a roof over your head and live at home when you are 18. Some of us were booted out and told to live on our own when we turned 18. That, in and of itself, is a GIFT. Be appreciative for it.
Too bad about your mom having a tiff with her side of the family. That doesn't necessitate that you too must have that tiff. I hope your day turns out a little better and you can reflect on the positive things in your life. Life is great, it is all in how you look at it.