Anyone else disappointed by their christmas??

[insiderart]

Sorry I didn't read this whole thread. But I will say that I have enjoyed my Christmases much more since I quit trying to please everyone else, expect nothing (in return or just nothing *period*), and just hope make my DD happy. As long as DD has a good Christmas and my family is happy and healthy I'm golden. But I will say it has taken me many years to get here, my most bitter disappointements were due to spending hours, days, or even months making homemade gifts only to have people say "oh".

Quit trying to get the "perfect" gift for those who don't notice it, get them the " good enough" gift. Tell the people closest to you what you really want. Even if it isn't a suprise. Expect nothing. Enjoy visiting.

 

[maplesky7]

"oh."

oh man, that made me laugh...so sorry it was at your expense insiderart.



ooh you poor dear.


All I wanted was a toaster. I told my mom what my 3 yr. old said I needed and my mom agreed. Is it funny that I wanted an appliance? You always hear jokes about people saying don't get someone an appliance.... well, I guess that's mostly said about husbands and wives. Today I used the oven for toast since I have 2 sick little girls who aren't up to eating much. What did I get from mom? A shirt that looks more like her style than mine. sigh. ...just a toaster. A $20 toaster at farm and fleet or where ever... just a toaster. Oh well.... my birthdays in May.

 

[PineappleMama]

Well, mom does have an excuse. Her hubby filed for divorce and she's running around like mad gathering the documentation she'll need in court. Man doesn't have a clue on what kind of 'storm' is gonna hit him. Won't go into detail, but it ain't gonna be pretty, and he really SHOULD have known since he's the one that did the... "I describe him as a creepy POS based on them" Deeds. So I understand why she might not have remembered to call, but still a teensy bit disappointing. *shrug* I did finally talk to her last night and she said she liked it (didn't mention the birds but loved the kids' names) and in typical OCD mom fashion it's already packed up along with all her Christmas stuff. *sigh* That woman makes Mary Poppins look like a slugabed.

AND the drainer is nifty. I rearranged my kitchen so that the coffeepot, toaster, sugar and butterbell swapped spots with the toaster oven so now there's just enough space for the drainer. It's small, so I have to do small batches of dishes, but it is kind of nice. And when there's more than the drainer can hold THEN I've got the pad thing for drying. I put my big cutting board over the stovetop then put the pad on top and Tadaa!

So, didn't stay disappointed for long, which is my typical MO. Nice to see the cruddy weather isn't keeping me down. Blue skies help a LOT. That dreary cloudy stuff just bums me majorly. Of course now I've got Bluest Eyes in Texas in my head, but there you are.

Edit... Maple EVERYONE in my family/friends knows I'm a kitchen nut. For my b-day this year it was an immersion blender. Other Christmas/Anniversary/B-days I've gotten Food Processors, Blenders, Deep Fryer, not to mention Lamps, gift card to Home Despot, etc. I have issues when it comes to gifts. Leftover from childhood I guess, but I can't help but feel guilty for anything I get. Even something earned causes issues, IE praise, plaque for coaching son's soccer team, etc. YEAH, I'm nuts, but I'm better than I was. But, when asking for something for the house, or for cooking... well then it's not JUST for me, but the whole family. Even the GC to Creative Hands... I'll use to make gifts for others, which I love doing. I love the painting, but darned if I've got space for all those doodads. *shrug*

 

[GaNewChick]

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My step-daughter asked what I wanted and I told her an electric can opener. She threw in a pair of pajamas too.

 

[maplesky7]

wooo hoooo!!! pj's to boot!

 

[maplesky7]

pineapple mama... yep, you're a nut.

 

[Mahonri]

With my hatch and all the beautiful chicks, it just puts the icing on the Christmas Cake.

 

[Lu King]

My best Christmas gift would have been for my son to get his health back, but that didn't happen.....yet, but we are still praying about it.

 

[LilBizzy]

Three days before Christmas, an 11 year old girl was abducted from her home just down the road. Helicopters, police dogs, people with flashlights searching in the dark. There was hope she was just being held in an abandoned building.
Christmas morning, the police allowed citizens to join in the search. Over 3,000 peple showed up at 7am Christmas morning. That was pretty cool, to know you are living in a community with people who care.
Unfortunately, her body was found on the afternoon of Christmas. So yup, there is a family that was terribly disappointed in their Christmas. And every Christmas from now until the end of time.

 

[Sunny Side Up]

My church took part in Advent Conspiracy, "an international movement restoring the scandal of Christmas by substituting compassion for consumption." You can learn more by going to http://www.AdventConspiracy.org It helped make for a more meaningful holiday for many of us.

And for those of us who are disappointed by gifts we've gotten or the response to gifts we've given, remember that it's easy to misinterpret the motive behind a gift choice. Maybe you get chocolate biscuits & tea cups because people think you really like them based on a favorable reaction you may have given at one time. Maybe they really put a lot of thought into those gifts, trying to remember just the kind of cookie they think you like, or choosing a cup they thought was your favorite color or something. It may just seem like they closed their eyes & grabbed the first thing their fingers touched, but maybe they really gave it a lot of thought but just made the wrong choice. And likewise other folks may not realize how much considerate thought was behind the gifts you chose, and not react to them the way you hoped they would. It's all a gamble, even the best of pals can't always read each other's minds. I know I've put a lot of thought to gifts I thought my teen nieces would like and often missed the mark. They always wanted gift cards but I just don't have the cash to give a decent gift card. Instead I would search & search for something of quality being sold at a great discount so I could afford it.

I hope everyone has a wonderful New Year, finding opportunities to be a blessing to others, and being blessed yourself.