Anyone else struggling with Infertility?

[kelseygirl707]

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We have looked into foster to adopt in the past, and we are looking into it again, but DH is scared that in the area we are in, all the babies will have FAS, or addiction to drugs, and possible disabilities. And he doesn't want the hurt of getting attached, only to have the parents regain custody. So I told him we would give clomid a few rounds before going down that path, but that is our next step.

 

[Blue Skys]

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We have looked into foster to adopt in the past, and we are looking into it again, but DH is scared that in the area we are in, all the babies will have FAS, or addiction to drugs, and possible disabilities. And he doesn't want the hurt of getting attached, only to have the parents regain custody. So I told him we would give clomid a few rounds before going down that path, but that is our next step.

nothing is a sure thing when it comes to adoption, but the case workers have been around enough to know what's more than likely going to happen. You can specify that you would prefer children whose parental rights are already gone, or that you do not want any babies that have been drug exposed. Another this is most neurological damage would show up about the time they start walking, so maybe an older baby? There is certainly a lot to consider. I'm still considering as I type.

 

[kelseygirl707]

Yah, the woman at the foster agency we have been talking to has assured me that before accepting a child we would know everything they know. Also Boyd and some of the other foster parents on here were very helpful, and stressed that if I didn't feel like it was a good placement here, not to accept that case. Hubby has told me to go ahead and get the ball rolling on this, so we are already into the long process if the clomid doesn't work, but I would rather it be one or the other, because I would hate to pull out because we got pregnant, I almost feel like I would be turning my back on a potential child, because I am pregnant. I am set to start my clomid in the next couple f weeks, after this hubby and I will have to decide on a path for us.

 

[Blue Skys]

Best of luck, we did clomid with iui a few times last year... We're not going to do anymore treatments. I guess we'll give our lives a couple more months and see what happens, if no healthy pregnancy then it's on to foster/adopt, no excuses. Even if we end up getting pregnant and having a healthy baby we'll probably still get lisenced, I agree you, it's like turning your back on a child that needs a home. I felt terrible cancelling our orientation, I just couldn't go. My hormones were (still are

) all over the place.

 

[Chicky Joy]

I think it's interesting that the topic of conversation on this thread has been foster care/adoption as that has been on our minds lately. We have been ttc for three years or so. I know that is not as long as others but it certainly feels like forever. My husband and I have just recently started to talk about adoption. While we don't know that we can't have biological children of our own we are seriously considering the idea of adoption. The idea of being paired with a child that needs a loving family is a heart warming thought. At this point I find the process and the cost to be daunting though it does not sound impossible. With the various resources for financial assistance including tax credits and interest free adoption loans there has to be some way to make things work. I'm not sure how long the tax credits are going to be available though. I'll have to look into that. For our situation I think it would probably be a better fit for us to look into adopting a newborn or infant. That being said, we still have more discussion and research before we make any decisions.

 

[kelseygirl707]

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The cost is why we are looking into foster to adopt. Here in California, if you adopt a child that you are fostering, it is free, or near free. And if you make the foster agency know that you are interested in adopting, they will pair you with children or babies that are more likely to have the parental rights terminated. You should talk to foster agency about how foster to adopt works in your area.

 

[suzyq53511]

I was adopted when I was 22 months old. A lot of foster parents do not care for their foster children properly and leave them in front of the tv or in a pack and play (as was down with me) and they get behind in development. then those kids are even harder to find loving parents for.... When i came to live with my new family the docs found my tongue was attached to the bottom of my mouth. no wonder i couldnt talk! i started talking right after it was cut!

 

[redhen]

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The cost is why we are looking into foster to adopt. Here in California, if you adopt a child that you are fostering, it is free, or near free. And if you make the foster agency know that you are interested in adopting, they will pair you with children or babies that are more likely to have the parental rights terminated. You should talk to foster agency about how foster to adopt works in your area.

Yeah..they're are so many needy kids out there...

 

[redhen]

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I'm sorry to disagree with you about foster parents..
Most of the ones that i know are good people with HARD jobs.... just saying...

 

[Blue Skys]

Can I bother y'all for a pep talk???

I had my last blood work done yesterday, and my hcg is down from losing our baby in March. Since trying never worked for us, we can start "not trying not to" get pregnant again. I don't know how to feel right now. I'm scared and excited and pessimistic all at the same time, and could just use some kind words from some ladies who may know how I feel right now.

I just hope that it doesn't take 7 more years for another miracle, and I sure hope that when we do get pregnant again that it grows in the right place!