Anyone have trouble getting their husbands to help?

[bucky52]

when my dh builds anything it has to be perfect.he uses a level . post have to be stright and the boards have to be even and the wire has to be streached tight.and i have seen him tear down if it is off just a we bit.thats why he does not want to add on to the run.

 

[bucky52]

Ya'll need to have a talk with my wife and let her know how lucky she is that I'm the lead chicken rancher.

We have a great marriage, and I try to jump into anything DW asks me to tackle...but most of the outside stuff is my idea in the first place.

could i borrow you for awhile.LOL

 

[mickey328]

Mine's not quite that persnickety, but he does feel things need to be done "right"...which is a good thing. He was into building and repairing for about 35 years so he brings all that experience to the table. And he's open to suggestions...which I think is way cool

 

[newfoundland]

You know the old saying, 'women are from Venus, men are from Mars!'

 

[redhen]

Am I in a minority?  LOL...Dave is awesome!  He built the coop, goes to the feed store, lets the girls in and out, feeds 'em.  Reckon I'm spoiled

NO..your husband is normal and how a husband is supposed to be. Helpful and willing to take part in what makes his wife happy. If something needs building..of COURSE he should do it..hes a man after all.
I would never be married to someone that didn't care about the things that make me happy..
So no..your husband is in fact a normal good husband that cares..

 

[mickey328]

The man's a saint...he grocery shops, loves to go antiquing, puts the seat down, cooks...I just keep him clear of the laundry...he's got that "what do you mean separate" gene, LOL Actually, I broke my hip just 7 months after we got married and was stuck in the recliner for a couple months...he did everything...fed and watered the dogs, and me, did all the shopping, dishes, yard work, laundry...I'm grateful for him every day of my life. I just wish it hadn't take so dang long to find him, LOL

 

[erinszoo]

Am I in a minority? LOL...Dave is awesome! He built the coop, goes to the feed store, lets the girls in and out, feeds 'em. Reckon I'm spoiled

Oh, my husband does some of that too ... it's just working on projects that gets us in trouble!! He is actually the one who keeps track of the food and bedding, etc. And he is really into keeping up with the egg count and selling the eggs - which is fine with me because I don't really care. Delegating who the boss is will hopefully help.

 

[13chooks]

My husband works away. 2 wks away and 1 wk home. By the time he gets home i have a list of thing that he needs to do that I just cant manage. Also if I need any hole dug I give him that job as he loves to dig holes. Any size, any shape. Hes weird like that. Mostly I am very capable when it comes to doing thing around the house or yard. I like to give him a list as he feels hes contributing to the house and not just in a financial way. He wasnt allowed to come near the pen when it was being constructed though. He would have messed it up somehow. My 2 sons 14 and 10, and my neighbour helped also. All for the cost of a carton of his favourite beer. He got a bit trashed. He wasnt allowed to do the roof that day. My daughters also helped 12 and 9. They helped with joing the wire for the roof and putting the wire up on the top and around the pen was a joint effort. When either of us are doing jobs around the house or yard we always try to include the kids as they can learn about new things, like using tools, safety and it helps with keeping realtions with them on a good footing.

 

[mickey328]

I think it's always a good thing to have everyone feel they're contributing...it really gives a sense of community and pride in accomplishment.

There's a lot of stuff I simply can't do...broke my hip a couple years back and while I can walk and get around mostly okay, it's never gotten back to "normal" so my strength and balance are pretty much shot. Plus, Dave was in the build/repair business for 35 years so he's just plain good at stuff like that. We're still "newlyweds"...3 years this month, but he's done so much around the house it's amazing...remodeled the kitchen, painted, laid new hardwood throughout, remodeled both bathrooms, re-landscaped front and back yards, built a gorgeous deck, built the coop and run...and it all looks and functions perfectly. Don't think I've ever asked him to build, change or fix anything that he hasn't been able to do...and all with a smile .

Reckon I'm bragging but by golly, after 2 rotten marriages each, we both sort of pinch ourselves every day...just to make sure it's not a dream, LOL

 

[Gofygure]

My SO is the kind of guy who likes to eat eggs and loves fresh chicken, but doesn't really want much to do with the live birds. Every generation of juveniles we've raised have taken a shine to him, followed him around the driveway, and made nuisances of themselves until he had to call me out to distract them. But he still helps out with all of the physical labor around the property and assists me with my ridiculously complicated schemes. We have a bit of a pact- it doesn't matter how bored I am when he needs to bleed some brakes, and it doesn't matter how much poo he steps in when we work with the animals. We respect each other's projects and know that they are all important, so we suffer through them.

That all sounds so idyllic. In reality there is a bit more grumbling and bickering, but it mostly works out.