Anyone know about marriage licenses?

[countyroad1330]

Yup, that's what its for. Rh factor doesn't seem to be quite as big a deal these days, since you can just take some meds. My grandmother had to give alot of blood to one of her neices when she was born. She kind of saved her life, if you think about it.

Countryboy - Thanks for the offer, but I think I'll have to pass.

Kaneke - We were thinking Maui. Why do you have to make an 'appointment'? Do they require counseling? I've heard that some counties in some states do before you can get a license.

 

[sundance]

congrats & best wishes from someone been married 54 years, Sometimes its a lot of hard work, but I wouldn't trade him for anyone else on earth.

 

[EweSheep]

As for counseling, we never had any and been married for four years and had a Civil War wedding at a park with a preacher that was on hand for the ceremony on a moments notice...our original preacher never showed up until later in the day....his horse trailer popped two tires at once so he didnt call or anything...we were glad we got married and never had an apology from the original preacher that was late!

Some preachers or the "man of the cloth" do require counseling before they could marry you....we had to go thru the list and had two that would perform the ceremony IF we go for counseling. Well it was a little late and some of the wedding guests were there while we were waiting for our original preacher.

Luckily my matron of honor(who she portrays Mrs Lincoln...see her pic... http://www.abeandthebabe.com/program.html and hairdresser knew of one guy that worked at the sutlery that was an preacher and she went over to his tent and ask if he could perform the ceremony. Sure enough, he did and it was a blessing of both of them! I almost had a breakdown that what are we going to do or how to fake the wedding with all those guests and get married on a Monday after the event under the judge at the court house! Hubby was so nervous and his best man didnt even show up either, not a call or letter either! (he later got called to be shipped to Iraq). So at the last minute he ask our commander to do the honors. Mr. Lincoln gave us a narration of a married couple and it was so lovely! They were such our dearest friends you could ever ask for! We are forever in their debt for their help in a bad timing of our wedding day!

Staying married is hard work...it isnt a bed of roses that some people say! Its a lot of give and take between the two of us and the kids thats in the picture is harder and it takes time and effort to keep ourselves sane and up and downs as well. Its ok to agree on the issues you do not agree on. We even had family counseling and works well and got us back on track once hubby got a new job.....support your hubby even he "fell" off the band wagon when he lost his job and sunk in deep depression that he lashed out and it was one of the hardest times we had to face by far in our marriage and many times, it looked too easy to get out of the marriage by stupid stuff that isnt worth fighting for. If you must argue or get the last word in, fight with care, love and with no sarastic or demeaning words...just constructively. Worked for us and counseling has worked so far in our efforts. Sometimes we need to take a deep breath and laugh about it once we take a look at what the heck we were arguing about????!!!!!

Congrats on your impending marriage and wish you all the luck!

 

[KKluckers]

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If you dont mind me asking, blood test for what? I thought it was strange enough when they asked if we were related.

It's also not strange that they ask if you are related. Some families have members that are carriers of certain genetic diseases such as Tay Sachs and Cystic Fibrosis. Obviously if you were related and you were carriers, there would be a greater chance of your child being born with the illness.

Okay that makes since. Thanks

 

[chickflick]

RUN!!!!

 

[bamagirl68]

I thought they only asked if you were related in Alabama!

Best of luck to you. Now that I look back I think counseling is a great idea for newlyweds. Wish I would have had it!

 

[gritsar]

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I'm RH - and my hubby RH+ Both O. We have one child of each too....

Depends which child came first as to whether you get the shot (called Rhogam, if I remember correctly). I am A - and married an O+ man. My first child (my son) was A- like me so the shot wasn't necessary. My second (my daughter) was O+, so I got the shot just hours after she was born. Also if you ever see an ad seeking blood donations from women that are Rh-, it's not a scam. That's what they make the vaccine out of. They pay very well for it and it helps other women. Off topic, but just FYI.

 

[Kaneke]

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these sites are somewhat repetitive, but reading all should give you a good idea of the procedure

and yes, either or both of you can change your middle and last names, to anything that either of you have ever used legally !

appointment is with license agent, not counseling but information gathering and suchlike --- appointment because the license agents each are open different times ...

long story about DH and me, trying to get an appointment with agent who wasn't answering voicemail or returning calls ... but it worked out okay

(we wound up marrying on the beach behind the Hideaway, next to the canoe club on Kahului Harbor)

sites for you:
http://www.maui.net/~friends/hawaiimarriagelicense.html
http://www.mauiweddingnetwork.com/MarriageLicenseAgents.html
http://hawaii.gov/health/vital-records/vital-records/marriage/index.html
http://www.justmauied.com/license.html
http://www.mauibeachwedding.net/license/
http://www.forevermauied.com/MarriageLicensing.htm
http://www.paradisemaui.com/weddings/licenses.html

good luck and so forth

 

[texaschickmama]

OMGosh, do it in Hawaii. It is sooooo beautiful there. You would not regret it. Don't stress about the wedding itself. I did and wish we would have just gone to Vegas or something and had fun. We had the traditional thing. I think I did that to make the families happy, but I should have thought more about us and less about them.

 

[mdbucks]

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In WV they know your related, they just make sure your not brother and sister.