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In first grade my mother decided to explain to me why my uncle had a "roommate" instead of a wife. She showed me a picture of a gay pride parade in the paper and basically let me ask the questions . . . at some point I asked why they needed to have a parade. She told me a lot of people didn't like that they were born a certain way, and so they had parades and things to try to let people know they were out there and just wanted to be heard like everyone else. When I asked her why people didn't like who they loved, she just said she didn't know, that people could just be mean sometimes. One thing I didn't ask about was the big picture of a sign that said, "God Hates Fags," but that picture burned into my memory. That didn't start me towards disbelieving in God, though. In fact, I decided that the guy with a sign had mistaken God with the devil. By the second grade I had quit believing in the Devil and Heck, at least in the traditional sense, because I had decided if God could do anything and was good, he would have found a way to get the devil to be good and be happy about it. Of course, a good God wouldn't allow a place like Heck to exist for any reason, so there was no way that had ever come into existence (I had never heard of the "How can an infinite punishment be just for a finite crime?" argument before, so I didn't know how to word why I couldn't believe in Heck, but it does some up my thought process at the time. Heck just seemed like a major overreaction) . Instead, I thought maybe bad people kept getting reincarnated until they did good, and then they got into heaven.
In the fourth grade, I decided to read the Bible. I read the New Testament a few times, actually, because that was the part that people told me mattered. After that, that was it. Grimm's Fairy Tales seemed far more believable, frankly, and far less disgustingly violent, even with Cinderella's stepsisters chopping up their own feet to fit into the shoe. I definitely couldn't see that I was "saved" simply because one man had died the same way Romans had killed hundreds of other people during those times. Oh, gosh, there were billions of thoughts whirling through my head as I read the Bible, but the moment of divine inspiration and understanding that so many people claim to get from doing so never came. Or actually, it did, but in the form of the relief that came with the realization that the christian god couldn't be real, that there wasn't some creepy presence watching my every move for some sign of sin, and that I was free to be a good person without the fear.
Of course, it wasn't until I was older that I managed to come up with more elegant reasons for my disbelief. I'm not sure I'd assign either event more credit for being the catalyst for my disbelief. The story in the newspaper was the reason I started questioning the existence of Heck and all that, so I think it opened up the doors for doubt in religion. Reading the bible sent me towards exploring other faiths to ultimately settle on atheism until someone could present evidence to show otherwise, so I think both are pretty equal. I've gotten pretty hesitant to add the account of the newspaper story when people ask for details into how I came to atheism, though, ever since someone . . . who I honestly thought should know better . . . told me that that was proof of the corrosive power of homosexuality on our young people.
Oh, and just as added information, me being atheist does not mean I'm not open to the idea that there might be a god, many gods, a force, or otherwise out there. It just means I am without theism, because, at present, I have not seen or heard anything to convince me otherwise. It may very well be that we simply haven't developed the tool yet that would show us there is a definite intelligent creator/s/force/aliens/god-like earthworms. Understanding that I may not have all the information does not make me an agnostic, though, because I am still, effectively, without theism. I suppose it could make me an agnostic atheist, but I don't see the point in that added labeling. I'm also an agnostic omnivore, because I'm not a dietary expert and I'm open to the idea that someone may prove conclusively that a vegetarian lifestyle is the best way to go, but people would be right to think it's weird that I'd feel the need to add the word "agnostic" to the omnivore label, and I feel the same way about religious beliefs, or lack thereof. I figure most people are either agnostic religious, agnostic non-religious, agnostic spiritual, or agnostic atheist, or anything else you can think of, but I don't think "agnostic" is really a label that can stand on its own, because everybody is that by default unless they've somehow become omniscient. I don't know if that makes sense to anybody, but that's my reasoning.