Anyone who believes in anything-

[eggsrcool]

 

[Phox01]

Seending love , light and energy .

Mary

 

[urban dreamer]

Thank you everyone. I feel better knowing that so many people are willing to help a total stranger in thier time of need. I cried when I read how many people responded, not because I was still upset but because I felt I was not alone. I guess ya'll deserve to know what happened (helps me vent too):
Eric is my best friend since the 9th grade. When we graduated, his parents left Arkansas and moved to TN when we were still 17. They left him the house (1 and 1/2 stories, inground pool, very, very nice neighboorhood) and said he had to get a job, pay rent and utilities. So he got a job at Krogers and makes minimum. Off and on through the last two years he has been there he has had several room mates: one pair ripped up the carpets and walpaper so they could "fix the place up" and then moved out over night leaveing him a torn up house. Then, his parents decided to fix the rotting deck, by ripping it out. There is still a hole in the pool and a three foot drop-off from the back porch. All of this really wasn't that bad. The house was still clean and livable, Eric had just gotten ripped off a few times. Well, about three-four months ago, he met his girlfriend and she moved in after she graduated. Since Eric works 8 hours a day, her job was to keep the house clean because she refuses to get a job. She doesn't. Infact she made it worst than ever before. I hadn't been in the house since she moved in. But I did have some things over there. Eric was kind enough to let me store some of my things over there because I have no place for it here. It was mainly kitchen stuff for when me and my hubby move out into a house of our own. I was insured that my stuff was still ok and untouched. A couple of days before chirstmas, Eric and his girlfriend borrowed some of my things to make sushi. I left them borrow it and told them I would be over the next day to get the stuff back because I needed it for christmas. The next I went over and almost threw up on the porch. The stench of the house was terrible. Im glad I wore my rain boots, not because of the rain, but because the crap and trash in the house came up to my knees. Have you every seen Hoarders? This house would have qualified. The living room, dining room, and bedrooms were stacked with boxes, trash, clothes, and molding food. The kitchen was covered in roaches and mold. The bathroom had black mold growing in the sheet rock. The rest of the sheet rock in the house had massive holes, some clean through the wall. When you walked through the house, the knats flew up and parted the way for you. And of course, there was my stuff: everywhere. The first thing I found was my gold laced china set with food caked on it and several pieces were broken or missing. Alot of my stuff was missing. Eric had no idea that she had been using my stuff when he wasn't there. I was in a rage. How dare they do this to my stuff! I don't care what they do the thier stuff but how can you break and disrespect other peoples things like that!I made a commitment to have all of my things out of that house before the weekend was over. And I did. We talked to him of course, told him how the mold and rats and roaches could kill him and his animals. He would not listen. I was worried ya'll. He was my best friend and I couldn't believe he was living like this. Letting her sit on her butt all day and complain about how he doesn't clean. That all of this was his fault. I agree that some of it was, but I can not completely blame Eric for the condition of the house. I was angrey that my things were broken, but they could be replaced; I can't replace Eric. I didn't know what to do so, I called the owners of the house: his parents. They were upset as you could imagine. So upset that they came down yesterday from TN- and kicked Eric out. So now, my best friend has no where to go and it all my fault. He could stay with us for a while, but he won't leave her. I know that getting him out of that house will be the best thing for him in the long run but it hurts so bad right now. Im so worried and I am so upset that everything fell apart like this. I feel like I stabbed him in the back. He won't talk to me and she blames everything on me. What am I suppost to do? And thats why I asked for prayers. I need some kind of intervention here. I can't go back and change what happened, so I am hoping some kind of higher power can make it better from here. My hubby is over there now helping them move some things out before his parents change the locks. I can't believe I screwed up this bad, but I couldn't let him stay there like that. I don't really believe in a specific God, but I am desperate and I need all the help I can get. Need help finding Eric a place to live and to rekindle our 7 year friendship. And I need help to continue beleive that what I did was the right thing to do. And if it wasn't, to help me fix it from here. Thanks alot you guys. Your responses to pray for Eric made me feel much better last night that someone, even people from across the country are praying for him. I've done enough- its up to something greater now.

 

[redhen]

THis is really a tough thing..because you were just trying to help your friend out. You only want the best for him. But now hes homeless..and much worse off. I dont know what to tell ya. I think i'd offer to help him out all that i can. If he wont accept your help, then thats his choice and i'd leave him be. So sorry this happend, you WERE just trying to help him out because you care.

 

[little horse]

so sorry you are going thru this, you were trying to help, i will continue to pray for you and eric, it will work out ok in the end.

 

[BarkerChickens]

I agree with Redhen that it is tough one. But, he was disrespecting his parents house by living that way as well as your belongings. Additionally, you are right that it is a health issue. His parents had the right to know what was happening to their house. I am sure it would have happened eventually had his parents come to visit. If he doesn't want to stay with you because of her, then maybe they can stay at her parent's house. While I am sure that some may say that you shouldn't have gotten involved, I would bet that his parents appreciate it and that home is theirs...not his. I am one for honesty, and believe you did the honest thing. What he chooses is up to him. I will send positive energy that at some point he realizes that you called his parents because of your concern for his well-being and that, in the meantime, he finds a safe, clean place to stay.

 

[urban dreamer]

Thanks guys. Her parents aren't going to let them stay, they have already asked. I guess this is one of those hard lessons you learn in life, but man that was an earily wakeup call. Im 20 (21 in Feb.), he's 20 and she's 19. Me and Eric both had to grow up quick after high school.

 

[trulefty]

I am the father of a 22 year old guy that has made lots of unwise decisions. I believe you did the right thing. Sometimes people have to reach rock bottom before they begin to climb out. It sounds as though your friend, like my son, still has a lot of growing up to do. I suggest that even though he is mad at you, that you let him know that you still love him and will continue to love him no matter what. If you alienate his girl friend he will alienate you. Suggest that he go to The Salvation Army or a mission for the homeless.

Urban dreamer it's sad that you don't believe in a "specific god" for there is only one True God.

I to will be praying for you, your husband, your friend, and his girl friend.