Are men normally this flaky? (Long ramble...)

[Judy]

"What did I do wrong here" is the only phrase that jumped out at me through this whole story. You did nothing wrong, but you made some mistakes.

There is no "doormat sort of girl," but there are girls who act like doormats, which is what you have been doing. I assume because this is what you feel you are.

It's not about confidence. It's about self definition and self worth. You are worth no more or less than anyone else. Find yourself. Find out who you are. Be true to that. You will never never find a life mate until you find what that mate will be mated with.

The genius with the magic wand is YOU. It is inside you. Your inner voice, common sense, even guardian angel, whatever you want to call it, knows the answers, knows where to go from here. Listen to it. All your answers are inside.

I am telling you the truth. PM if you think I can help.

 

[English Chick]

It sounds to me like he could be married..???? Contacting you, then not turning up.....

"Kick him to the kerb".... move on and stop thinking about it all.... life's too short for men like him, and you don't deserve to do it to yourself.... too many fish in the sea, stop trying to hook up with this one...............

 

[jacyjones]

I have to agree with everyone - this guy is not worth half the effort you have put into this. There are many better men out there so forget this one and if necessary change your mobile number otherwise he may keep texting you which would be a pain. Good luck!

 

[BorderKelpie]

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Ha! That was my first thought too, that he's married.
You deserve so much more than that. You have good friends, a life of your own etc. You don't need to worry about finding a man yet. Just live your life, have a good time and find out who YOU are first, then the perfect partner will usually show up. Don't go looking - he'll find you.
Best wishes!

 

[Black Feather]

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Totally and 100% agree.

I have a friend who acts like this guy and trust me, they DO NOT CHANGE! My friendship with this guy is drifting apart because of the same wishy washy behavior. They can't get their priorities straight and they can't keep a promise.

If they really care, they won't forget.

UC

 

[ohiofarmgirl]

i'm on the bandwagon also - why would you waste your time? he's treating you like you are Option #2. all these red flags are not your imagination.....and i'm guessing he's telling you that you are making things up and being "paranoid." run from him

here's a horror story for you - one of my gal friends met the 'man of her dreams' BUT he 'lived in vancouver' so she was always meeting him at the airport, driving him up to canada or whatever and she really only saw him on the weekends. and there were always holes in his timeline...humm

after about a year she introduced him to her son expecting the relationship to continue....until HIS WIFE called her and said oh no he didnt live in vancouver - he lived in Renton. after my gal pal dropped him off at the airport - he just took the bus home. or too his job at circuit city.

run dont walk once your intuition kicks in.... you knew it in your heart that this guy was a joke. dont doubt yourself!

 

[seismic wonder2]

A Guys point of view.

Drop him like a hot rock.

He ain't worth your time trying to figure out if he'll come through for you.
Not reliable. IMHO doesn't respect you enough to keep his word from one day to the next.
LOOSERs LIKE THAT GIVE US GUYS A BAD NAME!!!
especially if something REALLY comes up and you have to cancel a date....

 

[addiedunn]

Listen. And repeat after me.
Never.....and I mean NEVER, make more of someone than they are willing to make of you.

YOU are just as important a person as anyone else. Your time is just as important. Your needs are just as important.
I would block his number so he can never text or call again.

 

[georgialee]

Some guys are just, well.... idiots! He doesn't sound like he's worth the time. I wouldn't look at it as something wrong with you, but something REALLY wrong with him. Just forget about him and find a new man to occupy your thoughts!

 

[EweSheep]

AMEN!!!!!! They are not worth the time and money and effort! Yep, kick him to the curb!