Auction goers: Tip your helpers? (rant)

[Prettiest Frog]

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In college, each credit you take is the equivalent of 1 hour of class time and 2-3 hours of homework outside of class. To be a full time student requires 12 credits. That means a college student 'works' 48 hours each week, if they are lucky enough not to have any lab classes.

Now, let's assume you were working a full time job that averaged an additional 8 hours of overtime a week.

Would you work 3 hours of heavy hauling, loading, and unloading and be grateful that you got fed?

As a college student, I took 24 credits. That meant 72 hours a week at my 'job'. I worked 16-20 hours on the weekend. That brings my weekly total up to an average of 90 hours a week at 'work'.

Let's assume you worked 90 hours a week. (And I'll refrain from pointing out you'd probably be getting paid for your work where as I was paying for the privilege of working my butt off)

Would you work 3 hours of heavy hauling, loading, and unloading and be grateful that you got fed?



I learned, back when I first started college (and this was before I was even technically an 'adult') that if I did not charge for my time, my time was treated as without value. People thought that because I was young, they were entitled to have my help and I should just be grateful for any tidbits they threw me and just take it as a 'life lesson'. Apparently, I was a brat for disagreeing with them.

 

[Rafter 7 Paint Horses]

From what it sounds like, neither of you said anything upfront about wages.
IMO, if the kid is willing to work without knowing how much he will be paid or even IF he will be paid, he should be grateful for whatever money he receives.
I guess I am really "old school". If anyone does a job for someone without discussing wages, I assume it is being done out of the kindness of their heart, and no money is expected. Any money offered in this situation is considered a "Thank You for your help", and should be accepted graciously or simply refused by saying, "No Thank You, I did it because I wanted to help you."

Now, if there were wages discussed and either of the party's did not uphold that agreement, that is a different story.

This friend doesn't seem to have any respect for anyone, He sent your son to intervene on his behalf while he was lurking and listening out of sight. He wanted more money, but wasn't man enough to ask for it himself, he was so chicken, he said something snide while he was making his escape.

I hope your son is wise enough to see how his friend used him and then abandoned him.

I doubt it would help, but I would try to talk to this boy and explain that you thought you were being fair and if he ever expects to get more, he will have to ask for it himself and before he agrees to do the work.

Jean

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

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In college, each credit you take is the equivalent of 1 hour of class time and 2-3 hours of homework outside of class. To be a full time student requires 12 credits. That means a college student 'works' 48 hours each week, if they are lucky enough not to have any lab classes.

Now, let's assume you were working a full time job that averaged an additional 8 hours of overtime a week.

Would you work 3 hours of heavy hauling, loading, and unloading and be grateful that you got fed?

As a college student, I took 24 credits. That meant 72 hours a week at my 'job'. I worked 16-20 hours on the weekend. That brings my weekly total up to an average of 90 hours a week at 'work'.

Let's assume you worked 90 hours a week. (And I'll refrain from pointing out you'd probably be getting paid for your work where as I was paying for the privilege of working my butt off)

Would you work 3 hours of heavy hauling, loading, and unloading and be grateful that you got fed?



I learned, back when I first started college (and this was before I was even technically an 'adult') that if I did not charge for my time, my time was treated as without value. People thought that because I was young, they were entitled to have my help and I should just be grateful for any tidbits they threw me and just take it as a 'life lesson'. Apparently, I was a brat for disagreeing with them.

You're preaching to the choir. You see, I AM a full time college student, with a life and a job, and sometimes too busy to know if I am coming to know if I am coming or going.

All that said, yes, I would still be greatful that I was fed and thankful that I am able-bodied enough to help. But then, I'm a God-fearin', Christain, country woman, and thats just what we do I guess.

 

[Prettiest Frog]

edited because it's not worth it

 

[fancbrd4me02]

If that kid expected a certain wage for his help, he should have found out before he volunteered to work. I think that kid is a brat, and rude. If I had worked for someone who ended up paying me less than I expected I would have thanked them, and would have been unavailible to work for the person in the future. Why be rude and cheeky?

 

[Prettiest Frog]

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I'm guessing it had to do with the lecture he overheard.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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I'm guessing it had to do with the lecture he overheard.

Rude little eavesdropper....it's not the complaint so much as the underhanded way the little snot "handled" it.

 

[Prettiest Frog]

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I'm guessing it had to do with the lecture he overheard.

Rude little eavesdropper....it's not the complaint so much as the underhanded way the little snot "handled" it.

Calling him names, saying he was entitled, acting like he should have been grateful to do it for the ice cream, that's not rude?

I tried to offer another perspective, but I forgot that teenagers are by default always wrong. Guess I'll bow out.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Rude little eavesdropper....it's not the complaint so much as the underhanded way the little snot "handled" it.

Calling him names, saying he was entitled, acting like he should have been grateful to do it for the ice cream, that's not rude?

I tried to offer another perspective, but I forgot that teenagers are by default always wrong. Guess I'll bow out.

Yes in this instance he was wrong.

 

[sourland]

No need to use that kid again. If he had a problem, he should have approached you without attitude. That being said I think you treated him fairly. Kids today, my grand children included, need a reality check!