Awkward, but.....

[77horses]

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I was thinking about emailing her this thread, but then again she is sensitive about talking to online strangers, so she would say, "why are you getting advice from these strangers???" etc......I understand that, in fact like my title, it is a bit awkward because I am talking to strangers about this, but it's better than keeping it all in my head. And if I don't write it here, I write it somewhere else, like in a journal, so I can get it all out.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Glad you feel better!!

 

[debilorrah]

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I was thinking about emailing her this thread, but then again she is sensitive about talking to online strangers, so she would say, "why are you getting advice from these strangers???" etc......I understand that, in fact like my title, it is a bit awkward because I am talking to strangers about this, but it's better than keeping it all in my head. And if I don't write it here, I write it somewhere else, like in a journal, so I can get it all out.

One thing your mom needs to know is that while we may have never met, we are not really strangers. The people share with each other all the time and get great feedback. BYC is a support system to many of us, old or not.

 

[PineappleMama]

How many times have you heard stories about the bartender who listens to everyone's woes? Tons of people, for generations, have found talking to a stranger is easier. Someone who is NOT involved, therefor doesn't have to fear offending one side or the other. Someone who has nothing to gain or lose by listening and/or offering advice. There's a reason the cliche "Any port in a storm" exists. Leastways that's how I look at it.

I'm the same way... I would MUCH rather leave a note/email than actually talk to my mom... but then, she doesn't remember half the conversations we've had so that's just prudent planning really. You two will work things out, just have to get all the cards on the table...

 

[saddina]

"I'm a teenager, i'm hormonial and crying, give me a minute"

Try that next time. I'm an angry crier, i only cry when amazingly furious.

 

[canada-goose]

Do you want me to go smack the message into them for you?

 

[Southernbelle]

As a parent, if my kids kept saying, "I don't know" or if they avoided eye contact - those are red flags that you're hiding something.

I think you should look your mom in the eyes and tell her that you were completely honest about the incident, you have nothing else to report, but that you were thrown off guard when she mentioned it out of the blue to the doctor and it made you a little emotional. Discussing it with the doctor was awkward and embarrassing and it made you cry and the more they bugged you about it, the more you felt like crying because they put you on the spot.

 

[PineappleMama]

Sounds Good. I do hate to hear "I don't know"... usually around here's it's in answer to 'Have you seen the *insert needed cooking ingredient*?" but I've also heard that line when DS's gotten detention and I ask why... though, to be fair, his teacher does have a habit of sending the slip home with the date in the why field, and doesn't bother writing back when I try and ask what he did. Ahem, anywho. I like the "I'm a teen, I'm hormonal, I cry when I'm put on the spot." line. That's the TRUTH, which is great, and by getting that out there it could be a help in the future. I'd like to think I'd be brave enough, but I hate confrontations (again being an angry crier doesn't help), but I'd want to say that "You not believing me when I was being 100% honest made it worse." as I cannot stand being called a liar. Maybe if I told a lie and the dress made you look like a cow... okay, you can call me a liar then... but if I'm being honest, it really ticks me off (hence the tears welling) to be called a liar. But, maybe that's just me for feel free to totally disregard that.

Anywho, here's hoping for a lovely, stress-free day for us all.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

As a Mom I say you're mother loves you and you are very lucky that she cares so much. But, I also know we worried moms can be a pain in your rear. So I second what Saddina said (I frequently do!) When you are hormonal the best thing you can do is acknowledge it, recognize it is irrational and then you can not make a big deal out of it.


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And anyone who tells you these are the best years of your life is to be pitied! These years are very hard and I would hate to think my best years were over by 18!!

 

[3goodeggs]

Thank you for posting this.
You have made me rethink my own parenting. sometimes 'I don't know' means, you really don't know. and sometimes tears are just tears, and maybe I need to just give a hug and walk away.
You are some swell person.
Thank you for sharing this.