Thanks for all the great advice. Our current dog is a 17 year old mutt I got at anti-cruelty in Chicago. He is all of the things but the shedding on my list, but I feel like I struck a gold vein. I'm nervous about adopting any dog, and he's declining so he likely won't live through summer. Truly sad.
For 7 years we had a wonderful great dane. But after a gastric boat surgery, then an intestinal bloat surgery, he was put to sleep for a neurological disorder. Ny husband cried for a week and Zombie's 10K vet bill lives on... I'm afraid to buy another; I think some pure breeds might be congenitally weak. Hence, my interest in a doodle, but I think that might have mislead some folks, because they are a boutique breed. It sounds frivolous.
My brother has a wonderful boxer, my mom keeps newfs, and I had a roommate for 3 years who had a great lab so I greatly concur with everything noted.
I love the apdt tip. I trained Hugo, our elderly mutt. In his youth he was known as CrackDog. He maced himself after he ate through my Coach purse... he ate my entire coffee maker, leaving nothing but the glass caraffe and the plug... (yes it was plugged in) he paper mached my whole kitchen when he dragged a chair into the pantry, stood on it, and dragged down a bag of flour and a bottle of puppy shampoo and destroyed them in the same pile... when I had stripped the apartment to chest height I came home to find him simply standing on the dining room table. It was the last thing he could manage that was not allowed. He was a funny dog in his reckless adolescence. He was an exhausting dog to train, but I hung in there, and I did it.
But I've got a toddler now, and I feel a hundred years old, so I think it's excellent advice to start with a professional trainer. We won't be buying a puppy for awhile; I want to be sure Hugo goes gently into that good night with no more stress than needed. But I really appreciate everyone's help. We got a lead a while back on a woman that crosses a great dane with her half dane half saint bernard once a year. It would give us more vigor than the straight dane. But ultimately you guys are right. It's the training. I had been reading about "Guardian Dogs" but you set me straight.
Thanks again!
-Brooke
(In Essex, MA on Lake Chebbacco)