Hi everyone, my best friend is not doing so well. Um well first of all, what I hate about high school is the drug issue. I hate hearing stupid boys talk about drugs. Anyways I never would have imagined my best friend would do drugs...I mean seriously I don't hang out with those bad kids all my friends are good Christian people and we are unique and don't have to be like everyone else so it might have started about the time he took me to prom. He started getting really busy and no longer went to the same school as me. He was working a lot and modeling a lot and I barely got to see him except at Church. His parents are hard on him so he feels like he has to rebel which makes things worse with him and his parents. I think both him and his parents could change. His parents need to be less strict on him with all the weird rules (they took his bathroom door off one time and just so many other ridiculous things) but also my friend needs to be less mean to his parents. He acts so weird around them he is so nice then when he is around them he acts different and says stuff that gets him in trouble so he has a big mouth I guess. Well he doesn't come to Church anymore, and he was a great Christian very wise but now when he comes it is only because he was forced to come and he messes with his phone all during Church. When he first started doing drugs I could tell because I smelled it on him. I haven't or do not intend to do drugs but I know what it smells like because we busted some kids at a fish fry doing pot and told on them, in fact my friend was the one who was with me and said we should tell their parents and now he is the bad one doing pot in secret.
Anyways so I told him he smelled funny and he just played it off and said it was a new cologne. I didn't want to say he smelled like drugs cause this was at Church and all our friends were there with us and they noticed he smelled funny but they didn't recognize the smell. Later he texted me and told me it was drugs. I told him he didn't need to do that and he was a great person and he shouldn't get into that stuff. All was good until finally he didn't text me anymore so I had no idea about what was going on. I found out his mom had his phone. I tried to find out what was going on in his life so I asked his friend. His friend said ever since camp he noticed he was different so he stopped hanging out with him. Then one day I overheard a girl in class saying she saw him and said hi and he just looked at her and didn't say anything which is unlike him because he normally runs up and hugs people and says hi and smiles. She said it was weird that he didn't say hi. So I asked a random guy and he told me my friend was bad into pot. I felt horrible. Also my friend keeps trying to run away from home. My mom thinks that maybe he doesn't come to Church or talk to me anymore is because he is ashamed of himself and he doesn't want me to know or to be mad at him or something. My mom said we need to find some way to help him. We need to do an intervention. My mom said maybe I could tell the youthgroup about it and we could all go to his house and help him. Is that a good idea? Wouldn't it be uncomfortable to have the whole youthgroup knowing that or would that help and show we all care? I don't really know someone please help I have been visiting the above the influence website to find facts and things to say to him if I talk to him. My mom definitely doesn't want me to help him in person alone, but on the phone is okay which I agree with. What do you say I mean I have NEVER had a better friend and to see them throw away their life like this...I don't know. I just hope he isn't past the point of helping. I don't know what to do I want to help but I don't know if what I say could help. His mom said that he is himself around me like he feels he can be himself and not pretend and that is why she likes me cause I am a good influence. Last year he made a painting for me and around the edges of it he said thanks for being there for me and keeping me out of trouble. I have kept him from doing some stupid things, I just wish I could have been there to stop him from ever trying drugs. I do feel like I need to be here for him since some of his other friends are giving up on him.
Does anyone have first had experience with this? Have you given someone and intervention? Should I get the youthgroup involved?
Does anyone have first had experience with this? Have you given someone and intervention? Should I get the youthgroup involved?
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