Big Rant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Year of the Rooster]

You can get through it Deb. I would be ticked off too if my own mother told me that I don't take care of my children. BYC is always here for ya

 

[robbdebbie]

I just wanted to say sorry you have to go through all of this. I have been through some really difficult family things, and I know it sucks. You could call the financial aid office and fax them directly to the officer. I recently applied online for grants, and still had to bring taxes to the school. Still didn't quailify though????

 

[debilorrah]

I am waiting to hear from him what happened at the meeting today. Then I will take it from there. I want to help him, not be the middle man between a directionless young man and a screaming banshee.

 

[mylittlezoo]

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Good on you. Sometimes it's so hard to be objective when it involves a family member; I have a very difficult father and give him chance after chance to do the right thing in so many ways, but he always lets me down and proves my worst fears right. I want to learn how to take this step back and keep a level head.

 

[JessHall]

My grandma is very much the same as your mom... I have a long story but I will keep it short (promise

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My aunt has had health problems... ended up living with my grandma... Grandma was so mean to her. One day my cousin said to my aunt, come live w/ me. My aunt lived with my cousin for a year. My cousin is moving... so grandma suggested my aunt come back and live with her. My aunt says that was the best thing she could have done, and Grandma is WONDERFUL now.
Bottom line... my grandma realized that people will leave her cranky sorry butt and not call much, or visit at all if she is nasty. She got lonely and changed her ways... (so far).

Good luck with your mom. I know it's frustrating... mine's hateful too sometimes... after all, according to her, I've made her resentful

LOL you have to look past little stuff like that and do what you said... Distance yourself

Good luck and God Bless!!!

 

[Scoop]

Unbelievable!

 

[debilorrah]

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Tell me about it!!!!! I hung up on her.

 

[Scoop]

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Tell me about it!!!!! I hung up on her.

You go girl!

 

[CityChicker]

Ugh! I'm so sorry you are going through this with your mother! She sounds so insensitive. I agree with some of what others have said- just try as well as you can to cut her out of the process.

On the issue of financial aid- the FAFSA is the actual application, not any sort of aid itself. The aid varies tremendously from one school to the next (Pell Grants, State Grants, Loan programs, etc...). As far as I have ever known, you *always* are asked for your parent's tax returns if you are under 24. Now, there *is* a way to file some sort of exception to be declared an "independent" student. Maybe that is what your other kids did before?

Financial aid should be able to tell your son how to do that. Being asked for tax returns is the norm though. Your application will sometimes be selected for verification as well, in which case they will ask for additional information. That has happened to me *EVERY* year I have been in school and has involved having to supply *TONS* of information including tax returns, lease, bank statements, etc.... Some of this is just the nature of financial aid unfortunately, but your SON should be the one doing all the leg work. It is a shame your mother got involved.

As a side note- things may be easier at a public school, not a school like DeVry. My brother went to DeVry and his degree wasn't worth the paper it was written on and to add insult to injury, the degree cost him *THOUSANDS* of dollars. Your son's mileage may vary.

 

[Felicia]

I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I know no words or advice that could help you any but many many

to you