Thank you so much for your sympathy, it means a lot to have someone who understands.
Wow, what a coincidence that one of the first people I tell outside of my family turns out to be so familiar with FIP. It truly seemed that was the worst thing Behbah could have had. I don't know if that's true or not, but I can't imagine anything being more of a death sentence. My boyfriend and I would have spent a lot of money and given him constant one-on-one attention for as long as we could if there was even a chance of his getting better. But there was absolutely Nothing that could be done, and we felt as good 'parents' we only had one choice for him.
We had the veterinarian put him to sleep the same day she called and told us what he had. Within two hours we went from thinking we just had a sick kitty to not having our baby anymore. We stood there with him and stroked him as she gave him the injection. It was traumatizing, but I wouldn't have been able to forgive myself for just abandoning him in his last moments. I've been around and taken care of a lot of sick and dying animals, but I had never been present when one was euthanized. Even though I don't have any personal frame of reference, I'm not sure it went exactly as it should have, according to how others have described the process to me. It was not a gentle, peaceful, just "going to sleep and never waking up" -- he was not asleep or unconscious and was just beginning to try to walk away when he lost complete control of his body, and I saw a look of panic in his face as he fell onto the cold metal table. His tongue came out of his mouth and stuck to the table, his eyes frozen open, still looking scared. The vet listened to his heart and told us he was gone. Weeping all the while, I gently peeled his tongue off of the table and eased it back into his mouth. I closed his jaw softly and stroked his head, trying to close his eyes. It was the saddest, most horrible thing.
Oh, I'm sorry to have written so much . . . I guess I'm still trying to process it.
I don't know anything about it, but everyone else tells me it's very peaceful, just like going to sleep forever. I'm sure you've had to euthanize countless animals in the course of your career . . . is how they put Behbah to sleep how it is supposed to go?
Yes, the veterinarian did tell us that the virus could linger for a long time in our house. She said we should wash his bedding with bleach if we wanted to get another cat. The problem is, he doesn't have his own bedding. He slept in our bed every night, laid on all the couches, the carpet, played in the grass outside, and generally was anywhere we were in the house or yard at any given moment. Will it ever be safe to bring another cat into the home? I feel like as long as we live here I can't take the risk.
*sigh*
Well, enough about that!!
Oh yes, it is my pleasure to be able to offer Hyasinth a home if he needs it. A beautiful name, by the way, and apropos, I am sure, for the beautiful boy he must be!!
I've read some of the threads on here about crossed beaks and some of the things one can do to help with it. Again, if there is something that can be done for him and it's not a lost cause, I'll do everything I can!!
Yes, Oregon is a ways away . . .
Hahaha!!! I just looked on your page to see where in Oregon you are, and I saw you're from Portland. That city is forever iconic to my family and my boyfriend, because when we flew there for Christmas in 2008 we wound up getting stranded there for a week . . . and I'll bet you can guess why!!!!!
Yes, from here to Portland is about 481 miles (out of curiosity I just looked it up). I figure we could work something out if it came down to it. My mother is a crazy rock hounding fanatic and probably knows of a rock hunting spot she'd like to visit somewhere not too far from there. I could probably persuade my mom and dad to go and I'd ride along with them.
Of course, this would all be in the eventuality that it doesn't work out for you to keep Hyacinth for some reason. I know you'd rather keep him because you've grown attached to him, so hopefully it works out! In the meantime, hopefully it will give you some peace of mind to know there is a home for him if you need it.
(Whew, that was a long post!!!!)