Miracle of miracles... Jr. called DH tonight and asked to talk to me. This was at the the salon while I was getting a haircut mind you.
So... Jr. apologized for the way he handled things and what he did and said that the reason he did it was because he "heard me tell his father that he (Jr.) wanted to institutionalize him (dad)".
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NEVER said anything to that effect. But that would certainly explain his reaction.
What I do remember is DH not liking that Jr. wanted to talk to me and he was getting very upset so I gave the phone to DH so he could talk to his son. At some point DH said something along the lines of "well, I know I'm not going in a home" and I replied something along the lines of "no on said you were going in a home". Very vague memories of the whole discussion.
Jr. completely misunderstood what was being said and got scared.
Ultimately, we cleared the air and everything is fine between us now. DHs sister... don't see it happening. I basically let Jr. know that I've seen through her facade from the beginning and she's not fooling anyone but her brother (DH).
At any rate, it was nice to have an honest conversation with Jr. and straighten things out.
DH will be going to his very sweet sister's house for a late B-day celebration this Saturday (his B-day was 9/6) and will stay overnight and come home later on Sunday. All I asked Jr was that they keep the sugar to a low roar as it really affected DH badly when he came back from the wicked witch of the east sister's house with a bag full of Oreos, homemade brownies, cookies, Cheez-its and cheese cracker packets that he'd been eating when with her. All that crap did him not one bit of good. There are many studies siting how bad refined sugar is for the Azheimer's brain. I noticed the difference when he got home from Candyland.