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[aart]

She got divorced and my mother offered for her to come live with her.
I friggin warned her. Now there's a gigantic mess to clean up. And for all the puffing and manipulating my mother does, she won't stand up to her and tell her she isn't welcome and needs to go. And even if she did, sister wouldn't listen. She may very well have to be bodily removed from the house. She's that bad.

OhCrap!

 

[pennyJo1960]

Okay my problems with sibling are by no means that problematic .. Tonya I am so sorry .. But you better half has you to lean on when he needs it thank the lord

 

[cheepteach]

DL- we had to forcibly remove hubby's brother and his 2 worthless sons from father in laws house. Luckily, hubby's sister was on board with it. Still, it tears up a family.

 

[room onthebroom]

Happy Birthday Ron!!!

 

[room onthebroom]

DL, how long has your nightmare sister been at your moms? Did she bring “stuff” with her? I’m concerned that if she stays more than a couple weeks or has brought furniture with her she could be granted roommate rights. Then the trouble will really begin. Get her out quick if you can.

 

[Perris]

it sound horrendous Tonya; I wish I could help
I recommend taking a few steps back and breathe deeply for a few minutes whenever the pressure mounts. Calm heads make better decisions. Try to ignore the froth.

 

[LaFleche]

That's why I go with @sourland 's wise saying:

Friends are the family you make for yourself.

 

[DobieLover]

DL, how long has your nightmare sister been at your moms? Did she bring “stuff” with her? I’m concerned that if she stays more than a couple weeks or has brought furniture with her she could be granted roommate rights. Then the trouble will really begin. Get her out quick if you can.

She only just arrived Sunday. She brought stuff but no furniture. She's got all her boxes piled up in the dining area.

it sound horrendous Tonya; I wish I could help
I recommend taking a few steps back and breathe deeply for a few minutes whenever the pressure mounts. Calm heads make better decisions. Try to ignore the froth.

My other sister and her husband are picking mom up today and bringing her to dad's house (I have to work on it all day) so the 4 of us can discuss the situation and how to handle it. BIL and other sister (OS) think that crazy sister (CS) is bipolar and needs to be on meds. She certainly acts like she needs to be on meds.
I do sympathize with CS. It's not that I don't. I just have an obligation to protect my mother. She didn't know CS was this bad. No one did or she never would have offered for her to come up and live with her.
My number one priority is getting CS out of the house ASAP. She is toxic. My mom can't handle the stress.
If CS has no where to go and wants to be near 'family', fine. She keeps ranting about using her money, the money from selling dad's house and then selling mom's house (yes, the very house I just spent 4.5 months flipping for my mom to live in) and go buy "a bigger house with more bathrooms". I will be suggesting at today's family meeting that CS find a house in the area and buy it and move in.
She has it in her head that mom's house is half HER house and she has a right to do with it what she pleases as long as she can strong arm mom into submission. Well, again, guess who's got POA? Effective the date of signing 2 months after my dad died? Yours truly. And as her POA I will act in my mother's best interest and that is NOT selling her small, single level fully renovated house that she has grown very comfortable and secure in because CS doesn't like it. I'm glad she doesn't like it. GET ONE OF YOUR OWN AND GET OUT!!

 

[DobieLover]

Good morning? We'll see... The big pot of coffee I brewed will help. Enjoy!
Today will be interesting if nothing else.

 

[sourland]

Good morning, and thanks Tonya. Hoping for a speedy resolution to the situation.

That's why I go with @sourland 's wise saying:

I had a sister similar to Tonya's. I divorced myself from her the day we buried our mother. I've never looked back.