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Today we went to the Jersey shore - Island Beach State Park to be specific. We both love the ocean. We did not go last year because we were concerned about leaving Maggie for a full day.
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I hope you had a peaceful and relaxing time and thought about Maggie when you were there.

I am taking a mental break from all this turmoil and driving 3 hours down to a town outside of Reading PA to buy some large (8"-10") goldfish for my pond. All in all, I'll save over $800 for the same size fish as I could get locally. And they're just large goldfish not koi! I can't believe how greedy some people are.

My sister will go with me.

I've been going over to their house multiple times a day for days now and I've been eating all my dinners there with them to decompress. Piper usually comes with me.

I took my niece with me yesterday to empty out DHs apartment at the Hearth but we were too late to drop the furniture off to the consignment shop so we unloaded it in their garage and I'll load it back up tomorrow and take it down to get rid of it.

Then my niece and I went to the nursing home to drop off the clothes and visit DH. I was told via a phone call I received before we got there that DH was walking all over the place so at least that is good. But he's back to being aggressive with staff by pushing them around and sweeping things off the counter there. So it appears that whenever DH is stressed either physically or emotionally, he becomes aggressive. His decline from just 3 weeks ago is shocking and heart breaking.

To me at least, he appears to be having hallucinations and/or delusions. He recognized me when I got there but just couldn't connect with me at all. They have someone shadowing him 24/7 and hope that he'll settle down in a few days. They tried to reduce his anti-psychotic medication but put it back at the original dose due to the aggression. He is still in for insurance paid short-term PT but is supposed to be on the list to transfer to Vestal Park when a male bed in the dementia unit becomes available. But that will trigger the aggression again so I think he's going to remain on an anti-psychotic for a while. I would be afraid that he might attack his roommate. I will have to talk to his kids at some point and update them on all of this but I'm now dealing with the things the CS has done that prevent me from executing my mother's estate per her will.

We've discovered that less than 2 years ago, CS had mom make her the sole beneficiary of one of the very large annuities, which is in complete conflict with her will. Now CS would be getting nearly 1/2 of what was supposed to be split three ways. So she is basically trying to steal half of mine and half of my sisters inheritance. I have notified the attorney that drew up the will that we (I) will be contesting that beneficiary designation. I have also drafted a letter that will contest the one that remained being distributed correctly to freeze all the assets until the matter can be addressed legally. This happens outside of probate court because these are annuity accounts that would have by-passed probate. But I can legally contest them and hold everything up. We will have to try to prove that our mother lacked the mental capacity to make the beneficiary change and/or was unduly influenced to do so. We have hordes of stories and information but it will all boil down to our words against CS. We hope CS has lots of words to try to defend herself. Because when she starts talking, it's painfully obvious what a POS she is.

I have had the plates from mom's car removed and will surrender them to the DMV on Monday and have the insurance on the car canceled. CS has been using it at her will and is now furious she is stranded. Buy your own damn car or call an Uber. I will also be sending a certified letter to her informing her that she has 72 hours from receipt of the letter to put all of the services for moms house into her name or they will all be shut down and additionally, she will be charged $1200 rent per month for as long as she remains in residence in moms house.

I'm going to focus all my pain and anger at her for what she did to my mother (and me) for the past 2.5 years and for trying to take part my and my sister's inheritance. Now that I've started to contest things, Probate could take up to 24 months to clear. She was living off my mother. I'll be damned if she is going to suck off the estate. We still have to meet with the attorney to discuss what has to happen legally to have the beneficiary designation revoked and then what happens to the annuity in terms of how it will be distributed. I hope that if I make her life a living hell, CS will be cooperative with signing whatever may need to be signed to get things moving again. Even if everything went smoothly, it can take 5-7 months to probate the will. She doesn't seem to get that.

Sorry for bombing the thread with all my crap.
 
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I'm not kidding when I say that these dogs are my therapy. You can hear me chuckle at Piper trying to bound after big sister.

Every morning when we get here Bella tears off and starts trying to find a woodchuck. She has made her first kill of the year. It was down by the creek and it was just a juvenile maybe 3/4 of Piper size. But that certainly more than enough to cause great damage to Piper.
 

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