Calling Ms. Manners....

[texasgal]

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This. Give for the joy of giving ...

 

[PineappleMama]

I push for a thank you... but I don't think I'm as strict as you... if you're at your party and you verbally tell them thank you then you don't have to then send a card saying it again... same with Christmas... no one mails us gifts, it's all direct contact... so no cards for then either so long as a verbal thanks is given.

And IMO that applies to adults to... saying Thank You takes what 1 second? And you were going to be exhaling anyways... so why NOT say it? Heck when you're saying bye as everyone is heading out you can throw it in... it's really NOT that hard.

But, most especially when something like this... a gift that MEANS something to the giver OR receiver... then it's especially bad if you just blow it off...

for you Cam and

for those who are too idiotic to utter a simple thanks on the phone, email, or card...

 

[Bat Cave Silkies]

I have two grown sons, that I'm not really close to (their choice), and both live out of state. For years I would send them gift cards on their birthdays and Christmas~~~NEVER heard any type of response. So~~3 years ago I stopped.....still haven't heard anything, but I put that extra money to good use.

It's not just the loss of "thank you", it's ALL manners that have been lost: holding a door for someone, helping an older or disabled person with their packages, saying "please", allowing the person with 1 item ahead of you in the checkout line.....it's sad

 

[elizabethbinary]

I apologized to a friend recently for not having my thank you cards to her yet becuase I had just ordered them... and she replied with

"You kidding, who sends thank you cards from weddings anymore?!"

... I thought everyone...??

Sorry about nobody saying thank you.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

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Agreed.

 

[Raiquee]

I would never send a thank you card for something after christmas, or birthdays. Not because I don't think it's right, but because I am SURE to say thank you when recieving it, and usually again when people are leaving I say "Thank you for the gifts" or "Thank you for everything". I don't chalk this off to having no manners by any means, heck a lot of people these days (mind you YOUNG and OLD) don't bother to breathe the words.

I did write thank you cards for our wedding, but didn't for my baby shower. I was going to for my baby shower, but two days later I was in the hospital having the baby, and the baby was in the NICU for 10 days and I was in there for 5. So, although everyone understood, I felt bad about it. Even though I had said thank you at the event. I have been to plenty of weddings where I didn't get a "thank you" card, and i've just shrugged it off.

Seems the ways just are changing!

 

[Royd]

I guess my basic attitude is: expect nothing, be grateful for everything....The smallest gesture gets a, "Thank you, much."

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

It's only three days since Christmas!! Between Christmas day and visiting with family and neighbors neither my kids nor I have written our thank you's yet!

I don't do e-mail thank you's for gifts, I actually send cards. I would be a bit hurt if some one was upset with me for not sending a card in such a short time frame.

 

[Camelot Farms]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

It's only three days since Christmas!! Between Christmas day and visiting with family and neighbors neither my kids nor I have written our thank you's yet!

I don't do e-mail thank you's for gifts, I actually send cards. I would be a bit hurt if some one was upset with me for not sending a card in such a short time frame.

But we've spoken since then and the gifts werent even mentioned.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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If the giver is there when the gift is given then I dont do a thank you, but we live far away from our families so most gifts are exchanged by mail which gets a phone call or a note.

I hate to think that basic manners such as thank yous, door holding etc are changing....