- Feb 5, 2011
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First off, i DONT want anyone to say "im so sorry" i just want to feel bitter for a while and it might be nice to hear about other people who might feel the same way i do over a similar situation, hear some stories, maybe hear a few silly replies to make me feel better anything but "im sorry"
anyways.
my mom and dad got divorced when i was like 4 years old, no big deal, dont rember my dad being around much in our lives anyways. growing up he rarely spent time with us, though he had visitation he just never wanted to come vist me and my sister.
growing up he would tell us how much he wanted sons instead of daughters, how much he liked boys over girls. on the rare occassions he would come by to take me and my sister for an overnight or a weekend he would usually leave us alone at his house while he took his girlfreinsd sons out to dinner,movies, shopping ect and not come back till late at night.
when i was 6 he got a huge rottwieler that would bite me playfully but hard enough to leave open wounsd on my legs, and would yell at me for allowing it to happen, at the time i was at eye level with the dog, the dog weighed 65 pounds, i weighed 40.
he told me it was my fault the dog bit me and hurt me-now im terrified of rottweilers.
he used to crtisize me and my sister, calling us stupid when we were 6-8 years old, one year for my birthday my mom asked him to buy me a cake since she had lsot her job he said no and refused.
he used to tell me and my sister we were only after his "money" and didnt really love him.
when i was 9 years old we moved about 900+ miles away, he never called or wrote us letters.
when i was 13, he got married and never told us, we found out from my grandma (his mother) he had told everyone heh ad invited us to his wedding, but he didnt even tell us he was getting married, we found out 2 years later!
when i was 16 he sent us a box of used clothes for christmas, they were...for older larger set people and sent a message saying "maybe you can amke yourselves some nice outfits from this junk" to this day we do not know if he ment well or if he was being an *****, we junked the clothing and did not contact him.
my sister had a baby when i was 16, never told my dad, but she was still on his insurance and he found out when he got the bill and made a suprise vist, while him and his wife and new son were up, all he did was ask me about my sister and tell me how proud he was of her and how wonderful she turned out and gave her lots of money. (it was cool, i was glad he talked about her and said so much nice stuff, i was also glad he gave her so much money for her new baby, but i was a bit sad when he refused to acknowledge me and my accomplishments at the time)
we didnt speak much again untill i was about 17 my grandpa died (moms father) and we went downstate to go to the funeral where my mom pushed me into visting my dad who, again could only ask about and talk about my sister and how wonderful she was, he also went crazy bragging about his stepson to me. he told me if i ever needed anything or ever wanted to vist again to let him know as he would send me a bus ticket.
2 years later i asked him if i could take him up on the offer to vist, he said no and refused to write me again, even though he told me he was online everyday 9they had a computer and internet free access at home since there freinds had there own internet company)
3 years later his wife added me to facebook, and while shes extremly active on it, she refuses to talk to me or anything.
my dad has 3 stepkids hes oh, so proud of. one son ended up in prison for damaging his baby by shaking it, the baby is permenantly brain damaged and had to have a colostomy bag for the rest of its life- but hes a great kid.
his step daughter is on her 8th kid- all from differant fathers in 10 years and has lost them 3 times due to taking drugs- but shes a great kid who they are so proud of.
his last stepson dropped out of highschool and refuses to get a job and is trying to get on disability already due to having a weight problem- but htey are super proud of him.
well, im glad they are proud of there kids and help them out and give them a place to go when they need it, but they both called me a wh*re because i posted on my FB a picture of myself dressed sexily (ive never had a baby and ive only ever been with one man, 8 years still together never cheated or slept with but this one man) yet im a dissapointing wh*re.
he called me stupid because i was homeschooled and did not go to collage.
im an embarressment to him because.....well i dont really know quite frankly.
ive never been aressted, never been warned by a cop, ive never done drugs, ive never stolen a thing in my life, i was a virgin when i got with my bf and made him wait an entire year before we did anything, i dont smoke, i rarely drink, i dont have kids, im not on welfare, yet IM the embarressment?
well i decided along time ago i wanted nothing to do with him OR his better family for that matter, but this year for christmas he sent a box, with 2 christmas cards, one for my sister and one for my nephew with money and "hugs and kisses" inside.
my mom told me to not take it personally, and i tried to let it roll down my back, but i cannot help but feel a little bitter and sad about the entire thing, im not sure why he targets me to feel left out, why he obviously dislikes me so much.
my sister told me i was the lucky one for having dad leave me alone, tried to look at it like that, for many years, but i just couldnt help but feel let down,
i just wish he would move on with his life and leave us alone and not keep dragging me in and reminding me how much he hates me, just walk away and leave me be in peace i would be happy.
anyways like i said, i dont really want to hear anyone else say they are sorry for me, im not sorry, i just dont wanna feel disapointed and bitter anymore and would love to hear others similar stories and how you cope, feel like im not alone you know? because i kinda feel like i have a right to feel bitter, but then i feel bad about it, childish like i should just not let it bother me you know? and i try to not let it bother me but every once in a while the feelings creep up on me and i try to push them back down
anyways.
my mom and dad got divorced when i was like 4 years old, no big deal, dont rember my dad being around much in our lives anyways. growing up he rarely spent time with us, though he had visitation he just never wanted to come vist me and my sister.
growing up he would tell us how much he wanted sons instead of daughters, how much he liked boys over girls. on the rare occassions he would come by to take me and my sister for an overnight or a weekend he would usually leave us alone at his house while he took his girlfreinsd sons out to dinner,movies, shopping ect and not come back till late at night.
when i was 6 he got a huge rottwieler that would bite me playfully but hard enough to leave open wounsd on my legs, and would yell at me for allowing it to happen, at the time i was at eye level with the dog, the dog weighed 65 pounds, i weighed 40.
he told me it was my fault the dog bit me and hurt me-now im terrified of rottweilers.
he used to crtisize me and my sister, calling us stupid when we were 6-8 years old, one year for my birthday my mom asked him to buy me a cake since she had lsot her job he said no and refused.
he used to tell me and my sister we were only after his "money" and didnt really love him.
when i was 9 years old we moved about 900+ miles away, he never called or wrote us letters.
when i was 13, he got married and never told us, we found out from my grandma (his mother) he had told everyone heh ad invited us to his wedding, but he didnt even tell us he was getting married, we found out 2 years later!
when i was 16 he sent us a box of used clothes for christmas, they were...for older larger set people and sent a message saying "maybe you can amke yourselves some nice outfits from this junk" to this day we do not know if he ment well or if he was being an *****, we junked the clothing and did not contact him.
my sister had a baby when i was 16, never told my dad, but she was still on his insurance and he found out when he got the bill and made a suprise vist, while him and his wife and new son were up, all he did was ask me about my sister and tell me how proud he was of her and how wonderful she turned out and gave her lots of money. (it was cool, i was glad he talked about her and said so much nice stuff, i was also glad he gave her so much money for her new baby, but i was a bit sad when he refused to acknowledge me and my accomplishments at the time)
we didnt speak much again untill i was about 17 my grandpa died (moms father) and we went downstate to go to the funeral where my mom pushed me into visting my dad who, again could only ask about and talk about my sister and how wonderful she was, he also went crazy bragging about his stepson to me. he told me if i ever needed anything or ever wanted to vist again to let him know as he would send me a bus ticket.
2 years later i asked him if i could take him up on the offer to vist, he said no and refused to write me again, even though he told me he was online everyday 9they had a computer and internet free access at home since there freinds had there own internet company)
3 years later his wife added me to facebook, and while shes extremly active on it, she refuses to talk to me or anything.
my dad has 3 stepkids hes oh, so proud of. one son ended up in prison for damaging his baby by shaking it, the baby is permenantly brain damaged and had to have a colostomy bag for the rest of its life- but hes a great kid.
his step daughter is on her 8th kid- all from differant fathers in 10 years and has lost them 3 times due to taking drugs- but shes a great kid who they are so proud of.
his last stepson dropped out of highschool and refuses to get a job and is trying to get on disability already due to having a weight problem- but htey are super proud of him.
well, im glad they are proud of there kids and help them out and give them a place to go when they need it, but they both called me a wh*re because i posted on my FB a picture of myself dressed sexily (ive never had a baby and ive only ever been with one man, 8 years still together never cheated or slept with but this one man) yet im a dissapointing wh*re.
he called me stupid because i was homeschooled and did not go to collage.
im an embarressment to him because.....well i dont really know quite frankly.
ive never been aressted, never been warned by a cop, ive never done drugs, ive never stolen a thing in my life, i was a virgin when i got with my bf and made him wait an entire year before we did anything, i dont smoke, i rarely drink, i dont have kids, im not on welfare, yet IM the embarressment?
well i decided along time ago i wanted nothing to do with him OR his better family for that matter, but this year for christmas he sent a box, with 2 christmas cards, one for my sister and one for my nephew with money and "hugs and kisses" inside.
my mom told me to not take it personally, and i tried to let it roll down my back, but i cannot help but feel a little bitter and sad about the entire thing, im not sure why he targets me to feel left out, why he obviously dislikes me so much.
my sister told me i was the lucky one for having dad leave me alone, tried to look at it like that, for many years, but i just couldnt help but feel let down,
i just wish he would move on with his life and leave us alone and not keep dragging me in and reminding me how much he hates me, just walk away and leave me be in peace i would be happy.
anyways like i said, i dont really want to hear anyone else say they are sorry for me, im not sorry, i just dont wanna feel disapointed and bitter anymore and would love to hear others similar stories and how you cope, feel like im not alone you know? because i kinda feel like i have a right to feel bitter, but then i feel bad about it, childish like i should just not let it bother me you know? and i try to not let it bother me but every once in a while the feelings creep up on me and i try to push them back down