You are missing something crucial...why she "holds it" in the 1st place...
Is she doing it as a behavior-- or is there a physical problem? The doctors should have done an ultrasound and scope of the lower GI to determine if there is a structural problem or nerve damage....
if not-- even when she is not "backed up" she should be eating a high-fiber diet with a lot of applesauce and other fruits, lots of water, and a 1/2 dose of Polyethylene glycol daily (a prescription Fiber supplement/laxative that will not cause dependence as some others can)
My daughter has had this same problem
Has been "pumped out" 3x by the hospital in past 2 years...and once she was so bad, that it was backed up to her stomach opening and effecting her breathing & heart-rate. It is nothing to mess with!
We found out that(for her) it is caused mostly an aversion to using the toilet at school/in public bathrooms.
Early on, she had a terrible a fear of the toilet itself.
to a 3-year old, seeing anything other than liquid "going down" can be scary-- like THEY may get sucked in too-- so they often try not to "go" at all other than pee.... Also-- the sound of the toilet flushing etc... can cause problems for sensitive kids.
As long as it is not a functional/structural issue,
Try this (worked for our son! He wouldn't go in the toilet for years--only a potty chair till we figured it out at age 5!!)
1st, talk to her about how the noise, and flushing poo down the toilet can seem scary, but it is safe and can not hurt her....
THEN:
Make a poster with a spin-able "wheel" in the middle... divide the wheel into sections with numbers or colors and tape it above the toilet.
Keep a bunch of small cheapo toys and goodies in boxes or bags that are marked to match the slots on the wheel.
Then, whenever she "goes" she gets to spin the wheel and "win" a chance to reach into the boxes/bags to claim her prize!
It Works!!!
Good Luck Hun!!!
Is she doing it as a behavior-- or is there a physical problem? The doctors should have done an ultrasound and scope of the lower GI to determine if there is a structural problem or nerve damage....
if not-- even when she is not "backed up" she should be eating a high-fiber diet with a lot of applesauce and other fruits, lots of water, and a 1/2 dose of Polyethylene glycol daily (a prescription Fiber supplement/laxative that will not cause dependence as some others can)
My daughter has had this same problem
Has been "pumped out" 3x by the hospital in past 2 years...and once she was so bad, that it was backed up to her stomach opening and effecting her breathing & heart-rate. It is nothing to mess with!
We found out that(for her) it is caused mostly an aversion to using the toilet at school/in public bathrooms.
Early on, she had a terrible a fear of the toilet itself.
to a 3-year old, seeing anything other than liquid "going down" can be scary-- like THEY may get sucked in too-- so they often try not to "go" at all other than pee.... Also-- the sound of the toilet flushing etc... can cause problems for sensitive kids.
As long as it is not a functional/structural issue,
Try this (worked for our son! He wouldn't go in the toilet for years--only a potty chair till we figured it out at age 5!!)
1st, talk to her about how the noise, and flushing poo down the toilet can seem scary, but it is safe and can not hurt her....
THEN:
Make a poster with a spin-able "wheel" in the middle... divide the wheel into sections with numbers or colors and tape it above the toilet.
Keep a bunch of small cheapo toys and goodies in boxes or bags that are marked to match the slots on the wheel.
Then, whenever she "goes" she gets to spin the wheel and "win" a chance to reach into the boxes/bags to claim her prize!
It Works!!!
Good Luck Hun!!!