That is so hard to face. I so feel for you. You are in my prayers. People often forget how hard something like that is on the rest of the family. I do hope you have some sort of support there in the way of friends or family. I think I remember you moved here from out of state? I remember you had lived in Texas but don't remember if you ever said where any other family was.
Bbsnooks, I'll try watching that when I have more time. There are so many different methods it would be interesting to see another one.
I have got a story for you all that would have been upsetting had I been in a huge rush, but as it was I was getting a good laugh out of people.
We went to Topeka later yesterday afternoon. On the way up we stopped at TSC and bought the gate to put across my driveway, several bags of feed, chick starter, game bird starter, dog food, cat food for the peafowl etc. We had our long car hauler trailer on the back of the truck to haul the gate.
DH asked the clerk if he could unhook the trailer and leave it in the parking lot because we had to go way up north and do more shopping and eat and stuff. She said yes and told him where to park it on the far side of the parking lot. He got the gate all tied down to the trailer, locked up the hitch, and even went back into TSC to buy a padlock to lock the chain so no one could steal the gate panel.
We finished our other shopping, stopped and gorged ourselves at Mr. Stirfry and got back to the TSC parking lot about 9:15 or so. DH had the truck running and the headlights on, and was getting in and out moving the truck to position to hook up the trailer. When we got hooked up and started to pull out he pointed at a guy sitting in a pickup on the road that runs along side the business. He said, "Look, we are being watched." I assumed the guy was some paid night watchman cause he backed up and sat to watch us pull out. But then he was following us. We were joking about him calling the sheriff and screaming that he had people stealing a trailer (even though TSC carries nothing even remotely close to the size of this one.). Well the guy kept following us. DH said he should make a few U turns and make the guy run in circles. He sped up and slowed down and Mr. Hero in the truck stayed right with us. We knew he had called the sheriff because he was dead intent on not letting us get out of his sight. Well a few miles down the road we saw 2 sheriff's vehicles sitting at the side of the road. The guy that had been following us suddenly jumped into more super hero mode and pulled up along side us trying to push us over so we couldn't get away. Had we been actual criminals he really put himself in danger. He most likely would have gotten shot. What a dumb A.. So DH just pulled off on to the shoulder. The guy slammed on his brakes and stopped just behind us on the opposite side of the road. Another dumb move. No more than we had gotten stopped here came both Sheriff's vehicles lights flashing in hot pursuit.
Talk about unprofessional. The one officer that came up to the window with his hand on his gun said , "Can you tell me what's going on?" DH not being one of his smarter moments said, "Why don't you tell me what is going on." I could tell he thought better as soon as it came out of his mouth. Both of us being ex police officers know you never approach anyone with a statement like the sheriff's officer did. The officer should have first asked for his driver's license then said, "The reason I stopped you is...." That is one of the first things you ever learn in the police academy regardless of where you are.
Anyway the officer said that it was reported we were stealing items from the TSC parking lot. I had to pipe up and say that someone needed to get a life. He said the was just a concerned citizen. DH said he didn't have a problem with that but did have a problem with the guy trying to bulldog us off the road. (If he had whipped his trailer it would have flipped the guy's vehicle in an instant.) Worse yet the dumb guy was still sitting in his truck across the road from us. DH explained how we had made arrangements to leave the trailer and had bought the gate etc. We had to show them the receipt to show we bought the gate.
DH asked the sheriff's officer to have the guy leave and said he didn't appreciate his stupid unsafe behavior. The sheriff's officer did go over then and tell him to leave. (For his safety he should have been told to leave before they ever approached our truck. Another really stupid move on the officers parts.)
Well then he finally asks for his driver's license and went back and ran the tags and DH's DL etc etc and stood in back of the trailer talking for what seemed like forever. I imagine they were having the dispatcher make some calls as well because we had the trailer custom ordered and bought it from a trailer dealer that is almost across the road from TSC and it has his logo tag on it. It is registered and tagged though so it could easily be checked. Not to mention muddy and dirty from being used on the farm.
Well then I guess they saw all the feed bags and stuff in the back of the truck as well. So the sheriff's officer came back up to the truck wanting to see the receipt again. You could see his eyes going back and forth from the receipt to the pile of bags in the back. I was still laughing and joking with DH about how if we had actually kept making U turns we could have been in quite a circus of the guy in the truck following us and the sheriff's officers with their lights on going round and round in circles.
DH was starting to get irritated cause they wasted at least 25 minutes of our time while they checked this old gray haired couple of thieves that look like farmers out. He had to get up at 5:30 this AM for work and he was wanting to get home and get to bed.
At any rate I was having a good laugh out of it. I really should write the Sheriff's office and point out many really stupid moves on the part of his officers. I can understand a concerned citizen calling something in, but to play super hero like he was trying was out and out dangerous.... had we really been thieves. The dispatcher should have told him to keep his distance from us and let the sheriff's officers handle it... not attempt to run us off the road.
I told DH that at least he had something to talk about at work today other than my chicken projects.
Danz... that sure was an exciting night for you and DH. It is true that the "innocent concerned citizen" was an idiot. If a true criminal was running aware from the crime scene, I'm sure once he found out he was being followed, he would have tried his very best to "get rid" of him. It is interesting to see your experience as an officer pointing out the mistakes this sheriff made. Perhaps he is a new guy on the job?
Kuan