Coronavirus, Covid 19 Discussion and How It Has Affected Your Daily Life Chat Thread

[Ruthster55]

From a males point of view right when he gets home from work is not the time to be all up in his face. I get home about 2.5hrs before my wife and it gives me time to decompress before she hits the door and all up in my face about everything that happened at work. Another thing is women love to tell thier husbands how they feel but how are husbands? "I'm fine" when that's total bullshit. Men (at least used to be) were brought up to be the alpha, the strong one the one not to show feelings because that is a show of weakness. In my mind from the time I get home till the time I go to work tomorrow my head is crazy all over the place with work, with how I feel mentally and physically (mostly work) what I have to get done now or on the weekend how is my daughter how is her personal life how is her school and work life all this is a shitstorm in my head but what does my wife see? The calm collected husband listening to every word of how her day went while I sip a cup of coffee in the evening. Is what I'm getting at is men are programmed like that and it is how it is. If I were you I would leave him alone when he gets home. Give him an hour or 2 he'll slowly release some. Don't ask what he wants for dinner just cook something and offer if he eats cool if he don't he ain't gonna starve. I don't know about all men but what I like the most is when I do talk my wife LISTENS to what I'm saying and respond to what I said. Dont be thinking about what you want to say while hes saying something to you.my wife and I are opposites she will cluck about everything to anyone I on the other hand keep everything in. We get along great because she knows to leave me alone sometimes if I'm quiet and she knows it's not her it this whirlwind of life in my head. And on the flip side when she gets home I usually start listening about 20 mins after she gets home cause thats about when she gets out all that happened during her day at work. She told me long ago that when she's got problems I'm not there to try to fix everything just hear what she has to say

That's some great advice !! Better to allow the other person to get home and wind down slowly after work.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

That's some great advice !! Better to allow the other person to get home and wind down slowly after work.

I guess I wasnt taking in to count what it means for him to wind down. It only takes me about an hour or so but the stuff is probably heavy on his mind. I appreciate the different perspectives from everyone. Heading home from the dentist now. I can FINALLY chew using my WHOLE mouth. Havent been able to do that since october

 

[h2oratt]

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Economists probably have the least common sense of any profession !

The messages from epidemiologists have been pretty clear. I respect that field of endeavor, which uses science to save lives. However, I'm a lot more interested in insects and parasites than in viruses..

The messages from government have been contradictory, erroneous, and often inaccurate. Economists have way too much influence in government. Scientists don't have enough influence.

An economist trying to run the show on COVID is like me trying to run the Super Bowl. I know next to nothing about pro football. The result would be chaos and a lot of very angry people who paid lots for their tickets.

Yes, everyone is tired of the doggone pandemic. However, politicians and economists wishing it away isn't going to make it disappear.

Quickie about bugs and parasites. Back in 2014, as Nicolás Maduro entrenched his control over Venezuela, he ordered the local public health people to stop reporting malaria cases. I'll bet some economists there supported this, to make things look better and because they supported Maduro.

Stopping reporting of the malaria cases didn't make the malaria go away....

Ways to deal with malaria-infected mosquitoes that come into a house and bite may not be liked by everyone. Sleeping under a bed net can be hot and uncomfortable, especially in a tropical climate. Spraying houses is expensive, involves insecticides, and can be annoying to the residents who have to take their dishes and food out of the house and cover the furniture. But, these measures save lives.

Really, not the economists I follow.

 

[sdm111]

You sound exactly like my hubby lol. Maybe it was me coming home and complaining about work yesterday that set him off? I only work twice a week and I guess me complaining about being super busy at work was insensitive to him when he has to work 40 hours a week. I'm gonna try to listen more and hopefully he gets his frustrations out.

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[sdm111]

You sound exactly like my hubby lol. Maybe it was me coming home and complaining about work yesterday that set him off? I only work twice a week and I guess me complaining about being super busy at work was insensitive to him when he has to work 40 hours a week. I'm gonna try to listen more and hopefully he gets his frustrations out.

This is gonna sound assholish but maybe not. We keeping it real and I would like nothing more than yall to be happy. Remember it's not about you but don't make it about you. What I mean is if you keep prodding he will probably blow up now it's about y'all. Don't do that. You seem like you may be a gamer go play or let him. Calm and just being is nice. And don't put you and him on different pedestals as in maturity. People handle stress differently. Another thing I would suggest is go someplace and I don't mean this giant organized trip with an itinerary of exactly what's gonna be done every hour. That's something I don't like. I'll be like " hey let's go for a ride" and before I know it it's this big formal drawn out thing that turned into pure work. She has to go get all did up. No don't just ride pick a place to go (or just a direction)neither of yall have been. And just ride and look at stuff. You said he seems like me and I like to NOT have to have every minute accounted for. It's cool to just enjoy the ride with nowhere it go.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

This is gonna sound assholish but maybe not. We keeping it real and I would like nothing more than yall to be happy. Remember it's not about you but don't make it about you. What I mean is if you keep prodding he will probably blow up now it's about y'all. Don't do that. You seem like you may be a gamer go play or let him. Calm and just being is nice. And don't put you and him on different pedestals as in maturity. People handle stress differently. Another thing I would suggest is go someplace and I don't mean this giant organized trip with an itinerary of exactly what's gonna be done every hour. That's something I don't like. I'll be like " hey let's go for a ride" and before I know it it's this big formal drawn out thing that turned into pure work. She has to go get all did up. No don't just ride pick a place to go (or just a direction)neither of yall have been. And just ride and look at stuff. You said he seems like me and I like to NOT have to have every minute accounted for. It's cool to just enjoy the ride with nowhere it go.

Yup. He's that way too. I wanna pick a place where we can just relax and can...ahem...take our time....newlywed stuff. And your advice did help. When I came home he was napping. I picked up my DS like normal and started playing but as soon as he started talking I shut it. He talked for a good 20 minutes venting about work. Then he put his arm around me and we cuddled. He's in a much better mood now. I just need to put down my devices and listen

 

[Hayden Goseek]

Yup. He's that way too. I wanna pick a place where we can just relax and can...ahem...take our time....newlywed stuff. And your advice did help. When I came home he was napping. I picked up my DS like normal and started playing but as soon as he started talking I shut it. He talked for a good 20 minutes venting about work. Then he put his arm around me and we cuddled. He's in a much better mood now. I just need to put down my devices and listen

Great start. It's up to him too but it sounds like your doing your part.
DW and I have to just get away sometimes. Even if it is just to drive to the next town and get a hotel, or a tent in the woods. Get out of the house though. Too many things there HAVE to be done. Get away from that and focus on each other.

 

[troyer]

From a males point of view right when he gets home from work is not the time to be all up in his face. I get home about 2.5hrs before my wife and it gives me time to decompress before she hits the door and all up in my face about everything that happened at work. Another thing is women love to tell thier husbands how they feel but how are husbands? "I'm fine" when that's total bullshit. Men (at least used to be) were brought up to be the alpha, the strong one the one not to show feelings because that is a show of weakness. In my mind from the time I get home till the time I go to work tomorrow my head is crazy all over the place with work, with how I feel mentally and physically (mostly work) what I have to get done now or on the weekend how is my daughter how is her personal life how is her school and work life all this is a shitstorm in my head but what does my wife see? The calm collected husband listening to every word of how her day went while I sip a cup of coffee in the evening. Is what I'm getting at is men are programmed like that and it is how it is. If I were you I would leave him alone when he gets home. Give him an hour or 2 he'll slowly release some. Don't ask what he wants for dinner just cook something and offer if he eats cool if he don't he ain't gonna starve. I don't know about all men but what I like the most is when I do talk my wife LISTENS to what I'm saying and respond to what I said. Dont be thinking about what you want to say while hes saying something to you.my wife and I are opposites she will cluck about everything to anyone I on the other hand keep everything in. We get along great because she knows to leave me alone sometimes if I'm quiet and she knows it's not her it this whirlwind of life in my head. And on the flip side when she gets home I usually start listening about 20 mins after she gets home cause thats about when she gets out all that happened during her day at work. She told me long ago that when she's got problems I'm not there to try to fix everything just hear what she has to say

I'm a male, I can completely relate.

 

[troyer]

This is gonna sound assholish but maybe not. We keeping it real and I would like nothing more than yall to be happy. Remember it's not about you but don't make it about you. What I mean is if you keep prodding he will probably blow up now it's about y'all. Don't do that. You seem like you may be a gamer go play or let him. Calm and just being is nice. And don't put you and him on different pedestals as in maturity. People handle stress differently. Another thing I would suggest is go someplace and I don't mean this giant organized trip with an itinerary of exactly what's gonna be done every hour. That's something I don't like. I'll be like " hey let's go for a ride" and before I know it it's this big formal drawn out thing that turned into pure work. She has to go get all did up. No don't just ride pick a place to go (or just a direction)neither of yall have been. And just ride and look at stuff. You said he seems like me and I like to NOT have to have every minute accounted for. It's cool to just enjoy the ride with nowhere it go.

Totally accurate!

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Great start. It's up to him too but it sounds like your doing your part.
DW and I have to just get away sometimes. Even if it is just to drive to the next town and get a hotel, or a tent in the woods. Get out of the house though. Too many things there HAVE to be done. Get away from that and focus on each other.

We used to do a staycation once a year at a hotel in the next town over and camp outside for a weekend in the fall. We never planned either one it just seemed like timing. Covid made the staycation idea not fun because...no pool...no hot tub. We ended up going to the fiber fest in michigan this past fall but I fell and hurt my ankle badly. Between my poor health of late and everything else Im sure he has a lot on his mind