Could have gotten kidnapped...AAH! Freaking out, help!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by kargo, Oct 18, 2009.

  1. kargo

    kargo Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 8, 2009
    Wow. Today I learned a great lesson in why you should be very cautious when you do not have an adult accompanying you. My friend and I were allowed to walk back and forth between her parents' shops today. (It was only a block at most, I'd say.) This is the first thing liek this I have ever done. I enjoyed not having an adult hovering over me, but it was a bit creepy.

    We had actually gone into her moms' store when we became aware that a guy(who claimed he was three years older than us) was hanging around. He told my friend's mother that we were cute. [​IMG] We didn't pay him much attention. He asked us a few questions about where we lived and where we went to school. General polite conversation. Or so we thought! At some point, when most of the customers weren't around, I asked my friend's other if she knew of any baby stores nearby. I love little kids and I thought I'd enjoy looking at stuff for kids. (Plus, I wanted to get ideas for a baby shower gift that I need for December.) She said she didn't know. Then the guy looked at us. "Oh, I know of a few around here. My family owns one not too far away. Who's baby shwoer is it?" We both exchanged a look. We were NOT looking forward to telling this guy what we had gotten ourselves into. "'s for a teacher of ours." We finally explained. "Oh. how far along is she?" "Uh..." I stuttered, searching for an answer. I didn't know. "Four, five months, maybe? I honestly don't know." "Oh. I've planned three myself. One for my mom, one for my sister, and one for my cousn's boyfriend's aunt... (-or something like that. I don't remember exactly.) "Kudos." I said. I'd never heard of a guy who planend baby showers. It didn't dawn on me as a sign until later.

    There came a time when eventually my friend and I strolled out the front of the shop. I think it was an unconcious effort to get away from this dude. He followed us. We settled down standing right in front of the shop where her mother could see us very clearly. We somehow got into discussions of very inappropriate things which I refuse to repeat. We strayed to the topics of classmates and whatnot. Eventually we got back to the baby store. He offered to take us to one nearby. We had already searched the streets for one. We were pretty sure there wasn't one close by. We smiled. "Oh, no thanks. We have a few months. I don't know what I'd buy, anyway." I said. I had to think of some way to stop this. What self-respecting guy would take a group of "cute" girls into a baby shop (that probably didn't exist?) Especially one that I was beginning to think was a weid, stalker-type. So put we stayed. We kept chatting about casual things. (Which I can't for the life of me rmemeber now.) Soon he saw a dog. He must have thought it was cute, because he went over to see it without a word to us. We ran for it. We walked several shops down and tried to blend in. THat didn't work at all. He soon came back and reported the dog's name to us. Like we cared. As much as I loved dogs, I did not want to be near him anymore. I started jabbering about how we had taken a class trip to a place that was being advertised in the store we were standing in front of. I think it was my way of making up an excuse for running off so he wouldn't realise we were afraid. We began to talk nonsense again. More small talk here and there. Finally, he said he had to go and show his resume to some people down the street. He promised (or should that say threatened?!) to meet us again in front of my friend's family's store. As soon as he was a little out of sight and heading the other way, we started to run. We ran and ran until we had reached the mall where the other store her parents owned was. We went into a shop I was familiar with and told the owner (whom I know very personally) that a stalker had just come after us. He didn't seem to beliee us. Panicked as we were, we left and went to another store. This one was owned by one of our classmate's family. The guy had claimed relation to her (after my friend had not so-wisely provided said classmate's first and last name out of sheer panic.) We had to check. Evidently the two were not in any way related. Our classmate couldn't come with us, so after a while we left and finally arrived at her dad's other store. There we told out story once more. We were freaking out. I still haven't calmed down, and this was probably about 8 hours ago.

    Am I overly cautious? Are we not cautious enough? Did we do the right thing staying in sight and not going with this guy? (We wandered back into her mom's sight as soon as he rejoined us.) Are we paranoid? Was this nothing? I feel as if I may have made a mountain out of a mole hill, but at the same time I have a gut feling that this guy woud have hurt us if we had gone with him to the "baby store."
  2. babylady4

    babylady4 Mother Goose

    Mar 30, 2009
    Central WI

    You did the right thing, and you were very wise.

    I hate it when adults don't take kids seriously.....

    Too bad you did not take a pic with your cell phone or something for evidence.

    I congratulate you for keeping a cool and level head. You were both very smart about the entire situation.
  3. thecochincoop

    thecochincoop Chillin' With My Peeps

    Hard to say since I never saw the guy, but I always say go with your gut feeling and it's better safe than sorry. If the guy said that he was related to someone and they didn't know him that is a dead give away for someone up to no good. You all did good and stayed in public places and in plain sight where people could see what was going on. in this day in age it is definately OK to be over cautious since there are a lot of weirdos out there.
  4. ranchhand

    ranchhand Rest in Peace 1956-2011

    Aug 25, 2008
    You did the right thing. BUT.... try to remember, both of you, to never give out any personal info related to yourself or anyone else. You did a great job in a scary situation, and I am so happy you are okay.
    Tell everyone you can- even if they don't believe you, you are getting the word out. Once again, good job looking out!
  5. kargo

    kargo Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 8, 2009
    Yeah. I think my dad's friend (the first guy we went to) thought we had lost all sanity and were playing some sensational new game or something.

    Yeah. My cell phone wasn't even on. I had little battery and I wanted to conserve it in case I had to dial 911. She had her cell, though, and texted her mom while we were talking. Her text was: I think we have a stalker...

    I wanted to tell everyone. I was freaking out. We even posted on her facebook something about there's a weird freaky stalker guy after us...

    I thought my mom wa crazy this morning when she was telling me to be "aware of my surroundings." She said she didn't want to be feautured on Nancy Grace. Guess I got proved way wrong. Next time I won't think she's crazy.
  6. RioLindoAz

    RioLindoAz Sleeping

    Jul 8, 2007
    Yuma, Arizona
    Yikes. Goood job for taking action!
  7. Eggs4Sale

    Eggs4Sale Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 29, 2009
    Next time this happens, don't refer to the guy as a 'stalker'. So many people use this term now that it doesn't mean anything.
    If he comes around again, go straight to an adult and say "There is a guy who is scaring us. Can you tell me what to do." Don't giggle or scream or act dramatic. Adults look at your face to judge the seriousness of the situation.

    He may have been a normal young man who acts a little odd because he thinks you guys really are cute. I remember lots of really weird guys from my youth. Hormones???? I don't know.

    Either way, if you are uncomfortable, it's probably for a reason.

    Tell your parents the guy really scared you, and you want to know what to do if he comes around again. They may become concerned enough to pass a heads-up to the other shop owners, if nothing else.
  8. GaNewChick

    GaNewChick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 12, 2009
    McDonough, Ga.
    I have editd my first response ~ I'm not sure that we should be giving minors advice on a forum...IMO, I think this should be handled by their parents.

    Advice on which pair of shoes to wear ~ sure. But not when it comes to matters like this.
    Last edited: Oct 19, 2009
  9. deb1

    deb1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 26, 2008
    Next time around, don't be so nice. Tell the guy that you just want to hang with your friend today. Then leave.
  10. deb1

    deb1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 26, 2008
    Quote:I understand that the man might have thought that you were teenagers who were pranking him, but why not call the cops just to make certain?

    Does anyone think that it would be wise of the OP to call the police just to make them aware of this man?

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