Could it get any worse?

[LegHorn-BusHorn]

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Yes, that what I am trying to do. TY very much. It is just a bad time to do this crap and then the text! Doesn't make alot of sense to me, if you leave, you leave and then don't back pedal.

 

[debilorrah]

I think you need to change your sig line to childish husband....

 

[FarmerChick]

so sorry for you and your feeling lonely this time of season. hard times are had by all.....just try, try, try to put a smile on your face and remember the good times you have lived!! nothing is forever and your future will change into a great adventure!!

merry christmas! and I know a Happy New Year for you!!

 

[FarmerChick]

Don't know if it will help you....but here is the lyrics to a favorite song of mine.



The First Noel, the Angels did say
Was to certain poor shepherds in fields as they lay
In fields where they lay keeping their sheep
On a cold winter's night that was so deep.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

They looked up and saw a star
Shining in the East beyond them far
And to the earth it gave great light
And so it continued both day and night.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

And by the light of that same star
Three Wise men came from country far
To seek for a King was their intent
And to follow the star wherever it went.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

This star drew nigh to the northwest
O'er Bethlehem it took its rest
And there it did both Pause and stay
Right o'er the place where Jesus lay.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

Then entered in those Wise men three
Full reverently upon their knee
And offered there in His presence
Their gold and myrrh and frankincense.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

Then let us all with one accord
Sing praises to our heavenly Lord
That hath made Heaven and earth of nought
And with his blood mankind has bought.
Noel, Noel, Noel, Noel
Born is the King of Israel!

 

[maplesky7]

woo hoo!

Sounds like there's several of us here celebrating our first Christmas with out you know who.

oh well... life goes on.


And to let you know... that text is his way of control and manipulation. Don't read them, at least until after Christmas.... you'll be better off doing what you can for yourself to have a nice relaxed time... hot bath? Candles? Wine? Favorite movie? Big fat bowl of popcorn and brownies? Share some big laughs with a friend... and deal with him later, since you will have to deal with him. But do not fall for his crap. It's his way of manipulating you. At least this is what I believe to be so. I am in the same boat.

Merry Christmas my love. You are loved and you are special. We are here for you. pm me if you like.

hugs,
gretchen

 

[KinderKorner]

Oh wow. I agree with the above poster. Enjoy yourself. Worry about all this mess after the holidays.

He needs to make up his mind.

I'm so sorry for you.

Ps: I live very close to your town.

 

[Hoosiermomma]

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Yes, that what I am trying to do. TY very much. It is just a bad time to do this crap and then the text! Doesn't make alot of sense to me, if you leave, you leave and then don't back pedal.

Maybe your dh is still undecided about what he really wants to do. Maybe he just needs some time away to think and realize what he's giving up. I'm trying not to think about it b/c I have been a sah mom for 12 years now. I have no idea how I would be able to find a job that pays enough to keep the roof over our heads. Five kids and a multitude of animals are depending on me to keep it together. With that said...you have to keep your head held high and find something positive to focus on. We're here for you.

 

[LegHorn-BusHorn]

Thanks for all the support guys! I need it now! A couple of my girlfriends came over tonight and did support. I have a good support system Thank God! I did not respond to his text (because I don't have to) He is the one that needs me. I feel a little bad about that. DAMIT! I still do love him.

 

[Hoosiermomma]

That's great that some of your friends came over...that's what you need support. You'll get through this. I hope this all works out the way you want it to.

 

[CityChicker]

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It is so hard to end a relationship, especially when you still love the person. Maybe your husband really does truly love you. I agree with Hoosiermomma- it sounds like maybe he doesn't know for sure what he wants to do. It is awful that he left you this time of year though. I can't imagine what it would be like to go through that.

Don't give up hope though if you both still love each other. My husband and I separated about nine years ago and lived apart for almost a year. During our time living apart, we fell much more in love with each other. We were always such close friends that I couldn't imagine at least not maintaining that friendship. We continued to see each other during that year and went back to "dating" so to speak until it was obvious to both of us that we really wanted to be together. We moved back in together and the rest is history. We are sill together and our relationship was so much stronger after our split. I can't tell you the number of friends we have had that have been through similar circumstances. I can't imagine divorcing my husband for almost any reason. We are too much in love and neither of us believe in divorce anyway.

Hang in there. Everything happens for a reason, even though this must seem horrendous right now. I will say a prayer for you right now.