So I'm 29 weeks with my third baby. My last two pregnancies were nightmares because, well mainly and honestly, because I am not a tiny woman. Sure wish I was, but it just ain't happening. And anyone who also isn't a "tiny" person who has dealt with medical "professionals" knows that being not tiny immediately marks you for a whole lot of mistreatment during doctors appointments. I was berated, insulted, totally ignored, told that it was a "miracle I found someone to impregnate me" (yeah, not kidding) and allowed to go three and a half weeks over due with my son (he was born jaundice because of this) and two weeks overdue with my daughter because the doctor I had just didn't want to "have to deliver me". Here's where I state, that yes, I am overweight-- but no, I am not a circus fat lady either. I work out four days a week (pilates, aerobics and swimming laps), I eat mostly sensibly and I try very hard to keep my weight down. I just don't have a lot of luck in that department. But clearly I can't be that unhealthy if I can get in the condition I currently am in just by looking sideways at my husband once! LOL! So anyway, this time around I decided to try the midwife experience since I hear they are better about listening to a woman and not being so dismissive. Boy did I hear wrong. My midwives (I have to see all three so I know them all when I deliver, since they deliver on an "on-call" basis) have done exactly the same routine the doctor did. They claim I would have no idea when my LMP was because "heavier women never know their cycles" and then tell me that there is no way I could tell when I conceived. Funny, I coulda swore I was there. They've pushed my due date to the point where I apparently had a positive home preg. test before they claim I conceived! And their doing the same things that caused both my other children to be overdue even after I told them I am not OK with delivering past due this time. Also, I've been having pretty intense pains lately and have been telling them about it for over a month. They won't even listen to me. They keep saying it must be an infection, then test me. Never is an infection though, so they drop it. Apparently that's their only option as to what could be causing the pain? Wha?! When I asked the midwife last month if it could be my cervix thinning.. she literally laughed at me and said it wasn't possible. Is she nuts? Of course it's possible, people have incompetant cervixes all the time! And now I'm really getting mad because every time I even try to discuss a "birth plan" with them they blow me off and say things like "Don't worry about that" or "It'll be what it's going to be"!!!!!! So I'm not even entitled a birth plan? I've talked to another woman who was recently a patient and she was horrified. She says she had a solid birth plan and a scheduled induction set by 6 months. So... why can't I is I guess what I am wondering. I have an appointment in about an hour and I'm so stressed I can't even see straight. Any advice from the moms, or dads out there who have (or their partner's have) dealt with anything like this?