Cranky with my midwives... Anyone else been here, done that?

Ugh.. time to switch docs??

 

You've hired these people. YOU are the boss. If they won't be professional in their duties with you, start up the chain of command. Even they can be sued for discrimination. You are mad, use your anger to get answers. If you accept their behavior, you are condoning it. Heck, your husband should be upset about it!!!
Slinky

 

Ohhh, you poor dear BEAUTIFUL Mommy!!! You need to RUUUNNNNNN from that awful practice and find a new one!
And to those doctors, to those midwives too! Shame on them! They should NOT be giving you such dismissive treatment. If you're experiencing pain or any other troubling symptoms and don't feel you're being listened to you should go to the ER and tell them your caregiver won't listen. I had two GREAT births at Miami Maternity Center http://www.miamimaternitycenter.net/ which were far better than my first experience with a traditional obstetric practice (obviously trained at the JiffyLube School of Medical Care).

Your pregnancies should be special times where you receive ALL the support & care you need. Shame, shame, SHAME on those other docs & midwives for treating you so poorly! Maybe you can find some BYCers near you on the Where Are You section to recommend a better caregiver. Or contact my maternity center and ask them if they have someone they could recommend in your area.

God bless you & your baby & all your family too!

 

Your midwifes suck, honestly. Leave the practice as a woman you need to have a team you like. I am overwieght and never in my life been treated like that( I was told by a few dr's I was 100% going to miscarry at 17 weeks due to a placenta abrution, they even sent me home with large blood pockets the ultrasound tec has never seen before!They told me to pray and one ever drew a picture of the miscarrage when i asked what would happen if he lived full term! he made it past term and is heathy, I never listen to dr's though because they tend to be wrong 50% of the time Remember birthplans change but it's good to have one in place, mine was in a hospital setting no induction but I was forced to be induced even though I was fully diolated w/o any noted contraction, his head had to be placed mannually as he failed to come down( done by dr).My midwifes had a set time were things were discussed done by weeks.

 

I'd look for new midwives/doctor. I went to an ob-gyn the first time around. Not a good experience. The second time around I went to midwives. It was a much, much better experience! You should be comfy with whomever you choose, whether it be midwife or doctor. Good Luck!

 

I absolutely agree that you need to change practices NOW. IFF you keep the appointment mentioned, begin by telling the midwife that you are sick and tired of being ignored and mistreated. That they WILL pay attention to your concerns or you will notify your insurance company and the state licensing board of their unprofessional behavior. Be very specific to include that horrible comment about finding someone willing to impregnante you! That is BEYOND unethical. You may want to prepare this as a letter to give them if you have difficulty speaking your mind in person.

Mentioning your weight is medically appropriate in certain circumstances. Both heavy and thin women can have difficulties with pregnancy that is less likely to occur in an average weight woman. However, once they have ascertained that your exercise regimen is appropriate for a pregnant woman, that your diet is healthy for a pregnant woman and that you do not have gestational diabetes, it is out of bounds.

Talk to your friends and let them know that you are looking for a new OB or midwife; if they can recommend someone they like you are already starting off at a better place. Then rather than scheduling your next OB appointment, schedule a shorter meeting to interview for a new practicioner. And keep looking until you find someone you are comfortable with--who treats you as a person first, as a gloriously expectant mother second and worries about your weight only as medically necessary.

FWIW, my placenta DID abrupt, and it certainly had nothing to do with my weight (I am on the small side).

 

Quote:Every visit I had during both my pregnancies I was tested for gestational diabetes. Warning about it but not testing is stupid.