Cranky with my midwives... Anyone else been here, done that?

[whillo]

So happy for you that it went well with the midwives. I had my kids in a smaller town too, and I know how hard it is when you don't have a lot of choices. Are the midwives working within the hospital then? They have access to the epidurals? They didn't have midwives in our hospital. If you had a midwife, you basically were going to be signing up for a home birth. I like the idea of midwives in hospitals, but don't understand how they fit in with the doctors yet. In that case though (going to the hospital for the birth) then I would understand that you would need a plan. I'm glad she's going to work with you. Easy to say, but don't worry about the other midwives that weren't so understanding and helpful. Can you request this one on future visits? I was a doula for many years, and one of the things that I always believed when interviewing with one of my ladies was that this was THEIR birth and they needed to be comfortable with me, no exceptions. Sometimes you just don't have the same chemistry that you do with another. It sounds like you've found the right midwife for you.

 

[anbhean]

Hey Whillo, from what I understand the midwives deliver in the hospital here. At least that's what they told me, so I'm hoping I didn't just sign up for a home birth! Eek! I think home births are awesome, but I'm a worrier with all kinds of what ifs running through my head, so for me... hospital is best.

The anesthesiologist does the epidural, so if I go that route, the midwives really have nothing to do with that. If things go south and I end up needing a cesarean, then the office Doc does it. The office Doc is unfortunately the Doc that was not easy to work with with my first two kids. BUT... he's a good Doc in his technical/ medical stuff. Just no bedside manner for the mommies he thinks are "icky" or "weird" and he is big on dismissing pregnancy complaints as "hysterical mommy syndrome". Guy's not exactly a peach, in fact he's kind of a jerk. But he's solid on delivery know how.

 

[WingingIt]

A lot of hospitals work with midwives and if they're talking possible epidurals, I'm sure they are affiliated with the hospital there. I'm glad you told them how you were being treated and that she listened. Take advantage of those pg. hormones and rip their heads off if they start that crap again.

 

[Mandalina]

I am glad the appt went well and I hope yoru BP evens out on your friday appt. You were very brave charging in there ready for battle, way to go!

 

[whillo]

We had a doctor at the hospital that was absolutely horrible and nobody liked him, but he was the one they wanted when things went south during birth. The good thing was that he just did all the nitty gritty and the moms didn't have to actually talk to him and he never really gave them the time of day. After he left, it was all about the wonderful nurses that were there giving the support before and after.

You need to stop this talk about your body young lady. You beat yourself up too much. Surround yourself with the support you need and are comfortable with and forget those creepers that pass through your life making you feel less than.

Keep us posted. If you need help with your birth plan, I'd be glad to help you, but it sounds like your new midwife contact is right on track with you.

 

[card5640]

Find yourself a good doula and have her do some advocating for you or maybe they can recommend a Dr that has been kind to a heavier women int he past, I was a V-Bac and could not have made it thru w/out the help of my doula advocacy.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Also consider taking dh, your or his mom, a sister or a good friend to your appointments. And who's specific job is to snap at them if they don't toe the line in taking your concerns seriously. Make sure it is someone able and willing to do that, though.