Cross Continental Friends!!!

[Megan Amber]

Thank You Tarheel Birdy. Things just settled down a little for the night so I came and read what you wrote. The memorial is tomorrow and I am glad to have your thoughts and care. I am trying hard and I know that we will pull through. Andrew is in a happy place now.

 

[TarheelBirdy]

Thank You Tarheel Birdy. Things just settled down a little for the night so I came and read what you wrote. The memorial is tomorrow and I am glad to have your thoughts and care. I am trying hard and I know that we will pull through. Andrew is in a happy place now.

What time is the memorial? I will take a moment to think of you all and pray for you.

 

[Megan Amber]

Six p.m. Thank You!! It means a lot to me.

 

[thedollysmama]

Megan:
I lost my brother to suicide when he was just 23 and I was 20. It was unexpected and I was pretty mad at the whole situation. Some days I am still mad, I mean, the sole responsibility for taking care if my parents, having a good marriage and grand kid, fulfilling all of the hopes the two of us could have shared, booger! But there is a greater power at work who will not let me forget who my brother was really and I 'see' him all the time. I had someone come in today at work who made me stop and stare really long because he looked exactly like my brother. Actually, it's kind of comforting.
Megan, you will catch a glimpse of your brother out of the corner of your eye. My Cathloic friend says it is the spirit of the person visiting you when you need them. Some will say it us your brain playing with you. I say I don't know what it really is but it keeps the memory of my brother alive. It's a comforting thing.
I am truly sorry that you lost your brother. It sucks.
Karen

 

[SlowBill]

 

[Megan Amber]

Karen
Thank You so much, I was afraid because I know there will be a time when I think I see him and I didn't know how I was going to handle it, but now I will remember what you said and take it as a blessing. He will be sorely missed and I have to not let myself be angry when old friends stop in and all I can remember is the face that Andrew would make at me behind their backs or the terrible stories that he would tell about me (none of them being true) or how he was always there when I felt scared or mad or even just uncomfortable. Thank you again Karen-I will try my best.And I am sorry for the loss of your brother as well.
Megan

Bill-Guns and Roses is one of my mothers favorite bands.

Thank you all for being there for me even though you really don't even know me. It helps a lot.

 

[TarheelBirdy]

Today must be very hard for you and your family, Megan. Just take one moment at a time and be easy on yourself.

 

[SlowBill]

It's midnight here,

tomorrow, there's a fair in France, I've got to wake up earlier

buonanotte signore, and a special think to Megan Amber

 

[thedollysmama]

I have come to the conclusion Bill never sleeps!

Megan, thanks for your sympathy on the loss of my brother. It is very hard for my mother still, especially on Christmas. She is getting to be old and has brain damage from an undiagnosed heart condition that makes her delightfully forgetful. My father and I have an unwritten pact not to discuss the day or date if it will make my mom remember it had significance to her and my brother. I know it sounds cruel but it makes life much smoother.
You are going to face friends who want to express sympathy and ask questions and not know what to do. They like you and want to support you, just remember that. If they want to talk and you are okay with that, do it. If they don't want to discuss your brother at all ever, try to be okay with that. When I lost a dear friend last summer I couldn't even approach her husband at the memorial, which I later explained to him and he said was okay. I'm thinking about you, been brooding all day, wanting to help, wanting to talk to your mom and dad and the rest if the kids and tell them that all is horrible now the depth of the sorrow will shift.

Karen

 

[SlowBill]

It's terribly true, sometimes, I never sleep 30 hours in an entire week e che Dio ce la mandi buona!