The hardest part is that no one else gets why I feel like this. I have two sons of my own, both with new babies and I know I should be ecstatic about that, but I’m finding it very difficult to put on a happy face. It’s almost as if he has died, except he hasn’t and I have lots of reasons to not want to care, but then I think about who I know him to really be and I can’t get past it. I’ve compared pictures of him with my daughter and with his new gf, he just doesn’t look happy at all. It’s like he is lying to himself in order to avoid how he really feels. I can’t help but feel sorry for him because he’s so young (they’re both only 19) and so far away from home. Part of me thinks he is protecting my daughter from the loneliness that he knows would have come from her moving over to be with him, especially as he will be deployed and has training exercises all the time. From what I can tell, he only sees the new girl on weekends - that would not have been the case if my daughter had been there. So in a way he has his cake and can eat it too because he’s got someone to keep him company on weekends but can behave like a single man the rest of the week. The thing is that none of us can work out why he messaged my daughter for so long on Wednesday. It could be because he just became Facebook official with this other girl and he was checking to see if my girl would still talk to him, or it could be because he wanted to talk about his deployment. Or it could be that he really misses her so close to Christmas, especially as it was Christmas Day when they exchanged promise rings last year. I really wish I could just let this go. I’ve tried many times, and for some reason every time I think I’ve gotten over it, something happens out of the blue to take me back to square one. It’s almost like God doesn’t want me to give up on him. It’s good to be able to talk to someone about it that understands how painful this is. Thank you TheresePark. I hope I can help you too.