Daughter's boyfriend is choking her...need advice please

[mmpb1]

"Tapped out" ??? Get her out of there as soon as possible. The guy is trouble and no matter how well trained your daughter can be in martial arts, a crazy fool doesn't play by any rules. You seem to be close to your daughter, so give her a time to get away, talk, and get the h#ll out!
SSS doesn't work every time; if it did, i would be a happy woman.
Margie

 

[Cindiloohoo]

Okay, I'm going to go against the flow here and say you may or may not be overreacting. Get the facts first..ALL of them, then base your decision from that. Teenage girls tend to overreact or overstate over exaggerate occurences from a very hormonal POV. My DD 18 told me she got cursed out at a festival the other day. Her husbands side of the story was very different. He stated the lady was mad and said HE was being an A$$, nothing to do with DD at all, and one "curse word" used. While inappropriate, that was NOT her being "cursed out" but it made the story sound more exciting. My DD is not prone to being dramatic either...just sometimes. Maybe your DD was being a bit sarcastic or exaggerating when retelling the story. Maybe it did hurt, they were roughhousing, sometimes that hurts. I dunno, but I'd be skeptical when adrenaline was high in the situation to start with. I'd definately have a more serious conversation with her and make sure that what you heard is EXACTLY what she meant before pursuing something as serious as calling law enforcement in on it.

 

[babylady4]

Sorry. Inform you EX, call the cops. In that order.

She is under 18, faked or not this is serious. If it happened it should be delt with and if she is lying or exaggeration it should be delt with. This is big time serious and needs to be addressed before thinge escalate. If it is not her he kills it could be the next girlfriend and you would be sitting in a position of 'Could I have prevented this?'.

If she made something like this up she needs help as well.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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No no no...wasn't saying 'made it up' just saying...needs more details before jumping to conclusions. Boys do not understand their own strength at times..maybe this was NOT intentional. She says he seems like a sweet kid. Just saying sometimes we make something out of nothing. Girls sometimes let their mouths run freely without thinking of the consequences implicated to self and others. They are kids, and kid just do dumb stuff a WHOLE lot. Would this even be a discussion if it were her and a girlfriend play fighting? Likely not.

 

[babylady4]

And people have said Ted Bundy was sweet as well.

People are not what they seem, the quiet ones are the ones to watch.



I understood what you ment as well. I was trying to get across that even if this is an exaggerated account she should have the authorities step in. I don't know of anybody who would expand upon or 'make up' somebody possibly attempting to kill them, unless they had some serious issues.

 

[agnes_day]

wow..if anyone ever did that to my girl, i wouldve beat the holy hell out of them, and then called the cops.

 

[DuckLady]

I am sorry this is happening.
If this happened to my minor child, the post I would be making on a chicken board would be something along the lines of

"Yesterday I called the police because......"

Not asking what to do.

You know what to do. Please, for the safety of your child, do it.

And if you need this thread removed from the forum, just send me a note.

 

[tnchickenut]

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No no no...wasn't saying 'made it up' just saying...needs more details before jumping to conclusions. Boys do not understand their own strength at times..maybe this was NOT intentional. She says he seems like a sweet kid. Just saying sometimes we make something out of nothing. Girls sometimes let their mouths run freely without thinking of the consequences implicated to self and others. They are kids, and kid just do dumb stuff a WHOLE lot. Would this even be a discussion if it were her and a girlfriend play fighting? Likely not.

I'm going to have to side with Cindiloohoo this time around. As a tomboy myself who has wrestled with many a boy-friend and boyfriend... it MAY... may, may, may... be playfully serious. I mean... start playing, get a little mad but not POed... and suddenly we are strong arming too much. Nothing truely serious... just teenager angst.

However, more pieces to the puzzle must be found. Kinda sounds like parental units just don't like this guy... WHICH IS FINE... but does make you tend to jump to conclusions.

I'd tell her, if it happens again... and it seems he is seriously being too rough... kick him in the testicals and make him lose one. What my mother always told me!

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Sorry, thought you misunderstood. Still just think it's teenagers being dumb. But, what do I know, I only have two

DD and her friends fight all the time...I wonder what goes through their thick little heads

 

[babylady4]

My kids wrestle all the time (2 DDs and 2 DSs), and I did as well with my boyfriends. Purposely putting somebody in a chokehold is just asking for trouble, so why do it?

And yes teenagers can be idiots......

A LOT!