DD being bullied....

[English Chick]

This is so pathetically sad.... we are (or should be) tolerant of everyone's beliefs even if they are not our own....my son's school teaches them about all religions, it is a multi racial school with pupils who have many beliefs, and I am blessed that he goes there....I feel for your daughter....at the end of the day if we cut ourselves we bleed..the same colour!...these children who are bullying your child need to have their parents addressed....racism at all levels begins at home ......a lesson to be learnt everywhere throughout the world... Everyone's child and it should begin in childhood should be taught that we are at the end of the day HUMAN.... it does not matter what your beliefs are.....I am really mad at this attitude towards your daughter.... If it where me...I would approach the school first....if you get no joy...get onto the school board...no Joy ask to address the whole school within an assembley I did this once before - but the Head teacher was fantastic) and tell them that bullying for whatever reason is aboherent to us all......keep the forum posted...

to your daughter.... you can so this Sharon for the good of everyone....

 

[HorseFeathers]

People TRY to bully me... I just surprise them. If it happens again, tell her to say something totally random like "independent flying purple hedgehog" and walk off. Works for me.

If they keep at it after I say something random, I just start agreeing with them, going "yeah... uh huh", building sarcasm as I go. After a while of this, bullies/teasers generally learn to leave me alone.

 

[WriterofWords]

How old is your daughter and in what grade? If they are passing on messages from their parents then you need to go to the school, ask for a mediated meeting with the other parents without the children being present. Tell the parents very calmly, and nicely, that you understand their position, but that your beliefs are different, and just as they would not appreciate you trying to convert their children, you do not appreciate them trying to convert yours, and that by involving their own children this way, you have put both theirs and your own child in an uncomfortable situation. Explain that your daughter has come home in tears because her basic beliefs and values have been challenged by adults through the children and the pressure is too much for her to bear, and she shouldn't have to do that. By having a mediated meeting, it is put on the table for everyone including the school personnel, they will be aware of it, and they can help assure that she will have a safe environment at school.

Look at the arguments on here concerning religion, adults have no business sending messages to someone elses children through their own. Due to the separation of church and state, t-shirts and other items of clothing promoting a certain religion are really not allowed in schools to prevent just such things from happening. I have to call parents regularly to have them bring their children an appropriate top to wear because of what the one they had said. They don't like it, but then they don't like it when their children are teased and tormented by other children of a different faith or belief. If you are going to wear a bullseye on your back, don't complain when you are shot at. There is a difference between going to church and worshipping, and professing your belief and your faith, and wearing something you know is an inflammatory message to others.

From what you've posted I think your daughter might be fairly young? She wouldn't know better and not realize what she said would be an affront to someone of another religion. Even though she may believe differently, she needs to respect their beliefs just as much as they have to or should, respect hers. As she gets older it will be easier for her to understand that, and be able to take responsibility for a statement such as "I don't believe in God", knowing it will get a mixed response. But still, the parents have no right to send her a message of any sort through their own children.

 

[2468Chickensrgr8]

AWWWW GEE whiz....I am sorry to hear your daughters going through this ....I havn't had time to read through the rest of the thread ...sorry in advance if I repeating something....

I just wanted to let you know that you have to tell the school and if they dont do something or make it worse GO ABOVE THEIR HEADS !!! This has to be stopped...for your daughters sake and to teach these "bullies" that this is not acceptable .....explain to your daughter that these"bullies" really dont know the difference because this is what the have been taught or this is what they have watched through T.V /videos/music videos/books/family./friends .etc. etc......

In my daughters class one of her friends does not believe in "God"..so she also does not celebrate holidays...... its her religion....the teachers are fantastic in this school and have had assemblies talking about the different religions/disabilities/handicaps etc etc of the children that our in are community ...they have classes on bullying etc...It helps alot...
Just my 2 cents .

 

[farmerlor]

We're not Christian either and it sounds like you're teaching your daughter the same way we are teaching our children. They will know about all religions so they can make their own choice someday regarding what they do or don't believe. My younger kids are unaware that they can't just go around announcing our beliefs (although it seems that other people can) so I worry about the harassment they will encounter.
I agree with the others who have said that you should go over their heads and speak to the folks in charge.

 

[beak]

Parents should be contacted about the bullying. Children get confused when confronted with a different belief system than their own. If someone else believes differently then what they believe must be wrong. Their parents need to explain that there are many beliefs out there, that all beliefs are based on faith. Most of all you can't bully others about their faith, color, weight, appearance or anything.

 

[Msbear]

If those girls and their families were living the Christian lifestyle, then they'd would be kind and selfless and never unkind to others with different lifestyles. It isn't their place to judge, it is the lord Jesus's (per thier Bible)

I would contact the parents and let them know how this is affecting your daughters life at school and explain to them that this is her oppotunity to learn just like everyone else and for that opportunity to be threatened by lack of concentration because of the bullying is not going to be tolerated by your family. And that you hope they can communicate what it is to be understanding of others' beliefs.

I was picked on a bit by upperclassmen in high school and the school never helped. Hopefully, the parents would be horrified to hear what their little darlings are up to and nip it in the bud. If that didn't work, I'd be very attempted to approach the girls in person. ...probably not a very good idea

 

[sundance]

I am a Christian, and I apologize to both you and your daughter for the ignorance of some people,who CALL them selves Christians.Talk to the teacher and I may be mistaken, but I think this would be listed under the hate crime incident, Parents are responsible for their children's actions until they are 18 years old I think, and I really don't think they would like to be sued in court under this type of crime. marrie

 

[CATRAY44]

I am a Christian and I also apologise to you and your daughter for the behavior of the others. I remember what that felt like (prior to being a Christian), it certainly did not bring me any closer to God and really was a turn off and very offensive. I am sorry. ( I am so tired of the bullying that goes on in the schools, on all levels and forms in which it comes. ) You could maybe have your daughter remind the children that they are not acting much like the One they claim to follow....

 

[WisconsinChick]

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LOL! I say random things when people are being mean to me too. I think the last thing I said was "Well, no one cares so go eat some pants and decompose."

I don't know why but I find it really funny...