Dentist Pulls Out All Her Ex-Boyfriend's Teeth After Split

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No...but a real friend tells their friends the truth, even if it may hurt. The truth is that this woman seems addicted to self-destructive behavior and one of her friends needs to point it out and tell her there are better ways to live. After that, if she continues on that path, at least someone loved her enough to throw up warning flags to try and help avoid the ultimate disaster of her dying at the hands of her addiction, even if it didn't do any good.

Friends can use terms like "idiot" because they know it isn't meant in a mean way but merely in trying to make an extreme point.

A good friend once told me something that hurt at the time but it woke me up to something that I thought was only my problem, but was also distressing my friends whenever they were near me. I took her words to heart and changed...made a real effort to change. By doing that she changed my life for the better and I never went back to the self-destructive behavior.

"Idiot" sounds different coming from someone who really loves you than it does from a stranger and it could mean the difference between life and death. In that case, I'll call my friends everything but a white woman to get them to wake up to the dangers of what they do.
 
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No...but a real friend tells their friends the truth, even if it may hurt. The truth is that this woman seems addicted to self-destructive behavior and one of her friends needs to point it out and tell her there are better ways to live. After that, if she continues on that path, at least someone loved her enough to throw up warning flags to try and help avoid the ultimate disaster of her dying at the hands of her addiction, even if it didn't do any good.

Friends can use terms like "idiot" because they know it isn't meant in a mean way but merely in trying to make an extreme point.

A good friend once told me something that hurt at the time but it woke me up to something that I thought was only my problem, but was also distressing my friends whenever they were near me. I took her words to heart and changed...made a real effort to change. By doing that she changed my life for the better and I never went back to the self-destructive behavior.

"Idiot" sounds different coming from someone who really loves you than it does from a stranger and it could mean the difference between life and death. In that case, I'll call my friends everything but a white woman to get them to wake up to the dangers of what they do.
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I have had "well meaning" relatives call me all kinds of names over these same issues. All they did was drive me deeper into depression & self-destructive behavior. My change came when I cut ties with these people that I felt could do nothing but put ne down & realized that I was better than how I had perceived myself.

My mother also stayed in an abusive relationship for 25 years. I didn't have a lot of contact with her during this time cuz she was 1 of those people who thot putting me down would "help" me. She finally left that relationship in the past year for good. It didn't take her getting beat on or having broken bones. It took her seeing her ex with another woman who she realized herself to be far superior to & finally realizing she needed to move on.

Personally, I knew I was good enuf to move on after the 2nd one & haven't let any pull that crap for years. It boiled down to a fear of being alone for both of us. Once I realized I could make it without depending on a man...and the troubles that tended to accompany them. My mother took much longer to come to that realization & is now able to lean on me, other family & her church family instead of requiring a man to "keep her safe & sound."
 
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The bottom line is...SOME women FEED off the drama of those types of relationships...its a sickness..and noone can help them but themselves.
If you offer them help and they still stay..its ALL on them after that..
Honestly...crazy as it sounds...some women really don't want the help...
 

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