Do you ever worry...

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

I met mine at work as well.

I was wasnt even divorced from #1 yet. Was "dating" a guy who took pleasure, for some reason in telling me that his mommy didnt think I was "feminine enough" I was driving a Silverado or my 69 Camaro that I had rebuilt. And I had a horse. Guess the boobs werent enough to make me a woman.

Anyway. I remember the moment I met my husband. I was introduced to him, shook his hand and "KNEW" I was going to marry him. I pressed #1 into signing the papers needed. (Sat at his moms house until he filled them out and signed em. THEN his mom respected me

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Broke off the "friendship" I had with the mommies boy and started dating DH.

I was heavier than I am now. Dh like that I have "meat on my bone" Even though I keep telling him it aint meat He loves me.
We have little in common. Seriously. I dont know what it is that brought us together, other than that MOMENT. But it wasnt that we have things in common. Well only that we dont smoke, are both children of divorce and have similar views on the the world. I kid ya not. He isnt an out doorsy person. Isnt big into animals(the houseful of pets is all me and the kid) But he does help out ie cleans the litter box, helps with the dog's issues, collects and will fed/water/let out the girls and will, on occasion feed my horse. Mucking the stall is out of the question I think.

Thing is. Stop looking. Have fun and be yourself. You will find that guy. And you might end up being quite surprised when ya do.

 

[Chickenmaven]

Worrying will get you nowhere, my dear. Have fun & spend time with lots of *people* - people of both genders. Be a good friend.

Guys run when they think we are trying to "land" them.

 

[ChevygirlBeth]

I was exactly where you are at one point in time! Well, almost! I was always the tomboy... almost all my friends were guys and most of them treated me like a sister. I was told by one guy friend in college that I was intimidating because I knew how to work on trucks, operate machinery, farm, etc (It probably didn't help that I worked on the grounds maintenance crew and came straight to class from work in dirty clothes with my hair in a ponytail quite often, but I worked a lot of hours and did what I had to do). I worried a lot that I would be alone the rest of my life. After a while, I came to accept it and began to choose not to let it bother me. I even started planning my future as a single woman... bought the truck I would need for my farm and started saving to buy a farm. Then I met my now DH. He LIKED me for the same reasons everyone else was intimidated by me.

We've been married 8 months (this coming weekend).

Don't let these thoughts bring you down if you can help it (I know it is hard to do that, though)! And sure - ask the guy out for coffee. It could go well, you never know! Good luck, hon!

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Thanks everyone for the kind words.

This stupid winter weather has gotten me down. Today was an absolutely gorgous day though, and I am able to actually get ouside and do stuff. It's amazing how drastically your mood can change in one day! I don't normally worry about stuff like this, but I've been a little homesick lately, and between school and work I just don't get a break!

I get to go home this weekend for a horse expo. I am very excited for that and the anticipation has lfted my mood tremendously!

Once spring and summer are here, I forget about guys and I just live. Then again, it helps that most of my friends at home are also single, and I am able to do things without hearing "My boyfriend and I did this" over and over again!

 

[rooster0209]

Just relax. I think the harder you look for a guy the harder it gets to find one. When you feel good about yourself and are comfortable with yourself, you will find the perfect guy.

If you and this guy have stuff in common, make a new friendship and see where it goes.

Email redfeathers son, start a friendship there.

I know people who met on a dating sight and are now happily married. She enjoyed the outdoors and that was what the guy did for a job.

 

[redhen]

Sweetie, the right guy is out there for you!...and you know what? he will not care about your weight...he will love that you like to play in the mud! and to be honest, i find that most guys dont really like the girls that are all girly,girl....they like a girl that will go outside and have fun with them! BUT, i do have to say....before you worry about being alone...you have to be comfortable and content with yourself first! and not care what others think of you...because YOU know who you are...right? in the end thats really what will make you happy in life...i honestly could live my life alone...i may be weird,

but, give me a book and my critters and some family i can count on....and i'm all set....i dont need a man...also, men have good radars...if you seem needy and clingy they will run like He**....i let the boys come to me...*and i'm no beauty queen!*.(never chase a man...if he wants you, he will let you know..)..you will find the right guy someday...AND i believe that old saying is true...."Love will come to you when you least expect it" so just live your life, be happy, have fun, love your family and friends and animals.....the rest will fall into place!

 

[HarlansHollowFarms]

I really like what a previous post said....plan your life for you, a wonderful , single you!

I married at 16 for all the wrong reasons, divorced at 19 with a newborn..... for many years I thought I would never find mister right...all through college, after my daughter was grown and gone....a long time...I just went about my business and made my life for me.....

Mister right worked with me, but I would not date him because we worked together...#1 rule....when I changed jobs, he came a courtin'....
We have been married for 7 years now, and still enjoying each others company!

Don't worry, he may be right around the corner, or maybe a few miles down the road..... they always seem to show up when you are not looking for them...

Good Luck!

 

[Redfeathers]

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Yeah! Email my son. You guys might really hit it off. He's a good guy. Pm me if you are interested in his email address.

 

[horsejody]

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I met mine on training maneuvers in the Marine Corps. I was wearing cammies and toting an M-16. Talk about intimidating!

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

I have been told the you too intimidating thing too.

What I hear from all of these posts is the same thing:

Ever read Shel Silversteins' The MIssing Piece??

The point it that once you are whole all alone you can be with another person who is whole. Like the others I met my Mr. Wonderful after I relaxed and decided I was going to be alone and that was OK.... Ten wonderful years.....