Does anyone do this

[Southernbelle]

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I agree with this.

As an adult you have a huuuuuge advantage over children, so you either need to play at their level or teach them to play at yours. I don't *let* them win, but I don't try to trounce them either.

 

[danielle82]

Growing up my Dad would never "let" us win. When we actually won, we new we had earned it. My mom on the other hand, would let us win when we were young, as we got older, family game nights were very competetive! Very Fun

 

[DuckLady]

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Wasn't that a scene from Mommie Dearest with Faye Dunaway?

 

[Beekissed]

Where's the joy in beating a kid? Well, some kids it would be a joy to beat...but you know what I mean!

It just helps them become more competitive when they win sometimes...you don't have to let them know that you LET them win. Some kids just need the confidence that comes with winning sometimes. Besides....life isn't about winning or losing, its how you play the game!

 

[Crystalchic]

Crystalchic wrote:

when my 11 year old asks me to have a swim race with her
i always tell her that maybe just maybe someday she will beat me
but not today

Wasn't that a scene from Mommie Dearest with Faye Dunaway?

it was
i like watching that movie, but i have to wonder if she was really that evil to her children
i mean chopping off her daughters hair like that, waking up her children in the middle of the night to make them clean
i believe that there was a part where she tied the little boy to the bed
i c`ant believe that the children were telling the truth about their mother
but i wasnt there

i saw the movie again a few weeks ago

 

[debilorrah]

She WAS that bad. I holler at my son all the time NO WIRE HANGARS!!!!! He laughs and the shudders.

 

[Davaroo]

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Yes. It is a hollow victory to beat children at their games.


But all parents do it, sooner or later. It's called sweet, if trite, revenge.

 

[crazymom]

Let's see....

My 12 year old, I play to win. Unless I'm trying to teach her a new game and she doesn't know all of the rules.

I used to always let her win. She turned into a sore loser when she played with her friends. So I tapered her win rate down so she could lose sometimes. Now I play to win.

My 5 year old is a different story. I make up my own game (she doesn't know this). For example, when playing Connect 4 I try to get 3 cases of 4 in a row before she gets 1 case. On the third time, I point out my most recent win. If she gets 1 win before I get my 3rd, I lose.

In Checkers, I try to see how many triple jumps I can put in her way before she notices. After I line up a triple jump that she doesn't notice, then I feel free to jump one of hers. This way, I have a hand tied behind my back, evening up the game and keeping it interesting for me!

 

[Crystalchic]

wow
im starting to feel bad now
maybe i should let her win every now and then
but she beats me also when we play rolling dice games

 

[PortageGirl]

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I hope you DON't feel bad, some games are all luck and she surely wins plenty of those, skill games take time and attention, and she'll get there, strength games (races etc) need growth. As long as you don't trounce her into the dust, she'll value her wins and learn to strive.