Does education make you jaded?

[Beekissed]

Please don't go off bashing men and stereotyping.

Now, if I had said, "ALL men find intelligent women threatening." This, then, would be stereotyping. I used the clarifier of "I have found..." , which would generally indicate "in my experience". By using this clarifier, I am not stereotyping ALL men, only the one's in my experience.

By reacting in the way you have, you pretty much fell into the category of the men in my experience.....

 

[GrayDragon]

My education did not make me jaded.

The joy some folks take in their ignorance has jaded me quite a bit though.

 

[wombat]

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Now, if I had said, "ALL men find intelligent women threatening." This, then, would be stereotyping. I used the clarifier of "I have found..." , which would generally indicate "in my experience". By using this clarifier, I am not stereotyping ALL men, only the one's in my experience.

By reacting in the way you have, you pretty much fell into the category of the men in my experience.....

Oh well, sorry that you've had the experiences you've had. I'm quite happy with my educated woman, and we've been together twenty years, so I consider myself blessed.

 

[debilorrah]

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Ignorance and stupidity are annoying, aren't they???

 

[BarkerChickens]

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Precisely! I don't think education has much to do with it necessarily. DH has his GED and I am finishing up my Master's degree. DH has worked hard to support me while I finish my education. Education doesn't define us unless we make it a point to define ourselves. It should only define our careers. DH has a great career without a college degree. I, on the other hand, need the degree for my career of choice. As for deep conversations of current events, that does not require a degree either. DH is VERY passionate about current events and, like you, will read the ballots, etc to become properly informed on the issue before discussing it. DHs family is the same way. His family is very intelligent! Much of my family is similar to what you describe and frankly, I just choose not to discuss anything with them (I love them a lot, I just don't discuss much with them because I get some racist comment or "so-so said....". People's ignorance and closed-mindedness is the issue. Anyone can read up on current issues and critically think about a subject without it being a education level related issue. The reason why some people have an issue, is that they don't WANT to think about it beyond what they are told to believe. Don't change who you are! If they don't like you because you look into the details and they don't, then so be it! If they want to look into it and discuss their view logically great, but if not...sounds like you aren't missing much.

 

[Beekissed]

Ignorance is unfortunate and sometimes cannot be avoided due to lack of opportunity to learn. Ignorance is a shame.

Stupidity, I believe, is a choice that many make by turning down the opportunity to learn. Stupidity should be a crime.

 

[debilorrah]

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I actually disagree with the stupidty statement. Some people just are born that way, and they usually think the are soooo danged smart!!! Stupid people are not aware they are stupid. Usually they think they are rather smart!!!!

 

[Wolf-Kim]

Reminds me of a man who used to board his horse here. He knew EVERYTHING about horses.

One of the first days he was here, we were introducing him to the horses and we pointed out one of the new rescues. Who had just weaned a foal. He said, you weaned her too early, she's probably still milking, strolled up to this rescue mare in the pasture and promptly reached up under her and grabbed her teats. She just a promptly returned the favor and threw a cow kick. He stepped back and look in discust at this mare and says "A horse like that should never be bred, cow kicking is genetic and any younguns she throws will cow kick"

He also decided to trim my horses feet and attempted to trim the feet of the same mare. She kicked him twice and gave his truck a good dent with the third kick. (I wasn't home). He said and I quote "I'll teach her not to kick, but she may get some rope burn, when I tie her feet and put her on the ground".

I ranted to my husband, he better not touch that mare! My husband and I later taught the mare in 10 minutes to lift her hindfeet without kicking, and neither of us were kicked by her, nor did she ever kick anyone again. NOR did she attempt to kick anyone before, during, or after her episodes with this "cowboy".

 

[thereseiam]

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Generalizing like this is really unfair to a lot of good men out there. It's like saying that all women want a drop dead gorgeous man and won't look at anyone who isn't model handsome. Sure, some women feel that way, but most of us are after a loyal, loving man who sticks by us no matter what. Yes, we need to be attracted to our partner, but you'll be surprised how far down the list looks slide after a year of picking up his socks and underwear off the floor! (oops, generalizing again LOL just 'cause my DH hasn't quite gotten the knack the clothing hamper doesn't mean that all men haven't figured out that complicated piece of equipment. . .

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*Intelligent* men are bored to tears by anything other than a smart woman. If a man is threatened by a woman with a brain, he's probably not worth having. And I'm not man bashing by saying that, by any means, because I believe that the reverse is also very true.

I once bemoaned the fact to a girlfriend of mine that why couldn't I find a guy to date when I had three cats, two dogs, and two horses, which a whole lot of guys found to be way too much baggage, when a local gal had guy after guy falling at her feet when she had five daughters by four different men. My friend just laughed at me and said, "Yeah, and which one of those guys of hers would YOU date??"

Er, good point.

I waited for a man who didn't mind my "baggage," understood that if he married me he'd have horses in his retirement home, is incredibly intelligent and very well educated, but not jaded in the least. It was worth the wait--and I still feel that way after 17 years of marriage.

Just remember that having an opinion and being informed doesn't mean that you can't agree to disagree on occassion. Sometimes people get 'educated' a little mixed up with 'pushy.' Not saying that's the situation with you, but just mentioning that as a possible explanation to what you might be dealing with.

Therese

 

[wombat]

Yeah, and which one of those guys of hers would YOU date??"
Er, good point.

LOL, priceless.​