Doing a wedding on the cheap: update post 50

[JennsPeeps]

DF's father & step-mom live in another state, and are trying to find in inexpensive flight so that they can come to our wedding next month. I emailed my mom to tell her (my parents live in the same city as us). They have a hide-a-bed in their basement and could easily accomodate my future in-laws.

My mom responded to my email:

I think it would be very nice for them to stay with you.

I wrote back:

I wasn’t asking that they stay with you, only telling you that they’re going to try to move a mountain to be with us on our special day.

This was a jab on my part because my parents have not been supportive & haven't offered a dime. Yet DF's family, who has very little, is trying to find a way to be with us for our wedding day.

My next thought was: (grumble grumble grumble) "Nice for you, maybe. Now, on top of everything else happening in the next 3 weeks, we have to clean out the back bedroom so that DF's dad & step-mom can sleep in there."


You might have picked up on a key fact before I did.


Then a friend pointed out the obvious to me and said: "Yeah, because there's nothing better than hosting your in-laws in your house on your wedding night. =P"

OMG my friend is right. My mother just refused to host my future in-laws AND told me I should host them on our wedding night. Ummm... not happening.​

 

[Zahboo]

Is there a hotel that ya'll can help pay the cost for. Best of luck finding an answer!

Edited to add, your siggy says DBF, time for DF?

 

[ohiofarmgirl]

hee hee hee

so when we had our wedding at the farm we, respectfully, told everyone that we wanted our privacy and provided directions to the nearby holiday in. my MIL thought this meant everyone but HER and figured she'd bunk with us.

your wedding just keeps getting better and better - keep up the posts!

 

[greenfamilyfarms]

If they keep insisting, maybe makes lots of noise???

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Quote:
I wrote back:

I wasn’t asking that they stay with you, only telling you that they’re going to try to move a mountain to be with us on our special day.

This was a jab on my part because my parents have not been supportive & haven't offered a dime. Yet DF's family, who has very little, is trying to find a way to be with us for our wedding day.

My next thought was: (grumble grumble grumble) "Nice for you, maybe. Now, on top of everything else happening in the next 3 weeks, we have to clean out the back bedroom so that DF's dad & step-mom can sleep in there."


You might have picked up on a key fact before I did.


Then a friend pointed out the obvious to me and said: "Yeah, because there's nothing better than hosting your in-laws in your house on your wedding night. =P"

OMG my friend is right. My mother just refused to host my future in-laws AND told me I should host them on our wedding night. Ummm... not happening.​

I caught it straight away! I was like: HUH?!

Your Mom needs a

 

[JennsPeeps]

Just got this email from her:

I didn’t even take it that way. Just that if money is a problem, maybe they could stay at your house. That way Gene and his dad could have some special time together and maybe they could spend a little more time with you. Please don’t be on the defensive with everything I say.

I responded that it's our wedding night and that hosting overnight guests is not quite what we had in mind.​

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Sometimes being blunt really helps!

Try replying with:

"But Mom, I don't think they would appreciate being witness to the consumating of our marriage all night..."

OR

"You do realize that I will be a tad busy that night correct?"

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Quote:
I responded that it's our wedding night and that hosting overnight guests is not quite what we had in mind.

Tell her your DF plans to hang from the Chandelier!

 

[JennsPeeps]

Keep it family-friendly, my peeps!

 

[sparkles2307]

no one dared think about staying with us even tho they came to MN from WY, WA, and CO and we have a 5 bdrm house... my mom hosted my maid of honor and her hubby as well as my dad's parents even tho my parents have been divorced for years...if my mom can do that then ur mom can do this.