DS Punched Bully

[WIChookchick]

I was tormented and bullied as a child. I hit one kid square in the nose in 1st or 2nd grade.. and after that my mom taught me to box.
She said "Never start a fight, but always finish one."
I put up with ALOT but when they destroyed things or there was a gang of them... I beat the living (BEEEEEP) out them, even a group.
And then I would cry, ball out like a baby.. so most folks thought I lost alot...
Till they tried the same thing and after a while and a gang of them... they got beat up too.
The worst was when my mother was called in by a vice principal who was going to press charges against me. She was a reserve deputy with the sheriff..
My mother threatened to go to the news stations and newspaper if she did...
Needless to say, I was not charged for protecting myself against a gang of bully girls.

Use words and mind, but if need be back it up with a quick and decisive act of self defense.

Carol

 

[BlackBrookPoultry]

My 8 yr old son just told me yesterday that a couple of kids ganged up on him yesterday. One pushed him down twice and the other kicked him you know where. Apparently he punched the kid in the face that was pushing him. The aid saw it and my son got yelled at. I told him that if someone is getting physical with him he has the right to protect himself. If someone wants to kick him in the privates maybe they just don't know how much it hurts and need to be taught. I was never one to go tell on someone for doing something I didn't like so it's hard for me to give him that advice.

 

[hikerchick]

My daughter was heavy in middle school. Whenever she tried to eat in the cafeteria, there was one boy who would make oinking noises. For a while she spent lunch period in the bathroom, and finally she got tired of it. So one day she dumped a carton of milk on her tormentor's head. The teacher who was monitoring the lunchroom that day told her that she did the right thing.

he never bothered her again.

 

[mississippifarmboy]

All I can relate is what happened with my son in the seventh grade. He is mildly Autistic so talks slow, is clumsy and just not very sociable. The kind of kid that doesn't play sports, just sits and reads. He had one kid that beat him up every single day for weeks on end. He came to me one evening and told me about it and asked me what to do. We sat and talked awhile about how fighting isn't the answer to all problems, and how he really had to be careful because he was head and shoulders bigger than any other kid in his class. He said he'd told his teachers and they just laughed. I called the school and ask the principle about it and he said he'd heard there were kids picking on him, but that he just needed to "make more friends and get over it. That boys will be boys". This went on like I said for weeks.

He came to me again one evening and said Dad, I can't take it anymore. What would you do if I hit him bacK? I told him if he got in a fight I'd give him a spanking. If he started it or went overboard it would be twice as bad and a months grounding besides. I explained that I did not want him fighting, period. He looked at me for a long time then said if I hit him, he'll never bother me again, because I'll hurt him bad. I know I'll get a spanking at school and you'll get me when I get home, but I'm not going to take it anymore. I told him, son - you've got a choice to make, think about it before you do something you'll regret.

I've always tried to raise my kids to think for themselves. It's a tough world and I don't want something to happen to me and them be so over protected that reality slaps them in the face.

I got the call to the school the very next day. The boy had jumped on him and they said Jon pushed him away twice, then the third time hit him one time and streched him out with a bloody nose. The school decided as three teachers seen it happen and he didn't start it, there would be no punishment.

When he got home I spanked his butt for fighting and that was the end of it.

Except.....

Now he's in college and him and the boy he had his one and only fight with are now best freinds.

As a matter of fact they stopped here and spent the night on the way to spring break last week.


Boys...

 

[SLWyandotte]

good for him. i teach my kids to take up for themselves. if you let people start to bully you you will be bullied all your life. yes in school you can tell a teacher or someone. and maybe they will do something. this just tells a bully you can't defend yourself. what do you do after you get out of school? who do you tell you are being picked on? break a few noses and gain a bit of confidence and you will stop most bullying before it starts.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

Apparently, most of us think that your son did the right thing. If a kid is being tortured, and the adults won't stop it, a kid should be able to do what s/he needs to do to protect him/herself. that's what I teach my kids. If i ever hear about my kids picking on another kid, they will be in SERIOUS doo doo at home... but if they defend themselves, in a situation where it's the only way, I will be on their side. really, punching someone in the nose is a great way to do it... bleeds a LOT, but usually is fixable without a whole bunch of money.. teeth and internal organs are usually more expensive to fix. and that crunch sound is priceless.... when well deserved. That said, violence is wrong, and is only acceptable when conventional methods have failed repeatedly.

 

[WriterofWords]

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I agree completely! At our school we don't have much of a problem but every now and then something will happen. The kids know whether it is during my class when the lower grades are out on the playground or when our grade is out there, they can always come to me. I've had kids beat on the side of my portable at lunch time for help because our coaches are lousy at being on duty and won't see a fight 5 feet away. Zero tolerance is the only way to handle it at schools for the staff.