Ever feel like you are too different from everyone you know?

i posted something very similar saturday in family section

 

My local friends do think I'm more than a little weird. I don't care about fashionable clothes, I think hair and nail salons are a waste of money, I'm pregnant again, I grow some of our own food and raise chickens and rabbits. My dream is more land, more animals and maybe some honey bees. They love to roll their eyes at me and poke fun at me, but it doesn't stop them from asking for some of my fresh eggs or homegrown tomatos.

I may not fit in with them, but BYC is fulll of people just like me.

 

I feel the same way!! I have some very good friends that I met at my old job I left that job 2 years ago to be a stay at home mom. I have nothing in common with them any more. I still care about them and keep in touch but we have little to talk about. I would rather spend money on things for my animals, get new animals, or pay off debt. I would love to be mortage free, good for you! My dream is to move out of the city limits onto a few acres and build my own house. I am sooo glad I found this place because so many people here have similar views and interests and it doesn't usually include expensive clothes and salon trips. I often feel like this is the only place where people get me anymore. Glad to see I'm not the only one.

 

I've come to think "fitting in" is largely our own perception. Rather than focus on all the differences, I choose to focus on the things we do have in common. Chances are you may have different dreams than they do; for land and animals and self-sufficiency, but I bet still enjoy the small pleasures in life in your own way. I work outside most of the day with animals and plants and dirt and the elements, but I can also go out and spend time with people who don't. When you come in from a long day of hard work do you have a favorite hand lotion that rehydrates and makes your hands feel good again? Next time one of your friends talks about her manicure, tell her about it. You two may have different reasons for using it, but I bet you can both appreciate a good lotion all the same. When one of them says she has gone out for dinner and mentions what she ate, if it's similar to something you like speak up and say so. There are common strings among all humanity that can connect us if we choose to acknowledge and embrace them.

 

I gave up face book.
For me a manicure is a nail brush and lava soap.

 

Quote:Very nice way of keeping old friends. There is always something to find in common with people, friends or not.

Through out your life you will change. Your friends will change. Good friendships last through that and some don't. I think it takes effort on both parts to work through changes. It is OK for either of you to let go or just have less contact until you do have more in common.

True friends are few and far between but there is nothing wrong with casual friends, people just enjoying people. And there is nothing wrong with finding MORE friends who you enjoy in this period of your life!

 

Quote:I love my FB. I just weed out all the ones I don't like and keep the ones that are most like me. I play a couple of apps (Farmville of course! LOL!) and I accepted a lot of friend requests. After a bit, I figured out who I enjoyed and who needed to go.

I only do manicures for special occasions. I end up chewing off my tips because they get on my nerves! I do have to admit that I love pedicures. I only get those about once every 6 months or so, though.

My favorite pair of shoes are my boots. I don't put on makeup every time I leave the house. I think spending 100 bucks on a purse is ludicrous and spending 40 bucks for a t-shirt is insane. Plus, if I like a certain style enough, I'll sew it myself!

 

I am strictly a jeans and t-shirt person or sweats.

I believe vanity is far too expensive a habit to have. DH loves me the way I am. I'm good with that.