Fattie's big fat RANT

[MeatKing]

ok So I've read all the post for the last day and half..

I agree, that was so uncalled for!!! He defiantly needs a quick kick in the butt!! "HUGS" I would so be ignoring his *** for the next while.. Plus make him eat your "healthy food" lol There must be something that would drive him nuts.. Like no beef for a week, or lots of brocolii.. or something really healthy you can tolerate. When he complains about lack of ..... you can remind him, it's not healthy.. The other night you made me realize, I shouldn't be eating... to make you happy. Cause it' s not good for us.. I won't make it anymore honey.. Hows that dry chicken breast honey.. No toinght we get only half a cup of carbs.. Baa haaa


I also cringed when I saw your user name, attached to "What dress to get" (Not sure if that is correct title of post)
I cringed because, I couldn't imagine calling myself this.. Even though I'm not skinny.. Maybe hubby feels like your naming it/owning (as username)
No excuses for him, don't get me wrong.. How bout a new username too.. BTW, I know I need one! "Meatking" what was I thinking!

 

[EweSheep]

Yes! How about a NEW name for this pretty lady?????

What do you think, OP?

 

[Carols Clucks]

Mrs Wagon (formerly known as Fattie) if you should choose to, for yourself, loose weight. Expect that Jack Wagon will also be unable to handle that in an adult loving husbandly manner. Judging from his need to embarrass you publicly and to draw his daughter in to join in the embarrassment, should you become thinner and more men notice you, he act out even worse out of jealousy.

I will be thinking of you and hope that you have some one in your area that offers good counsel.

 

[debilorrah]

Personally, I find that telling someone that because they are overweight it means they do not take care of themselves highly offensive. Most women I know that are overweight go to great measures to take care of themselves.

Steph is one of them. She is always looking for opinions about how things look on her, looking for advise on clothing she chooses. She happens to care very much about her appearance, and her HUSBAND calling her a horrible name IN PUBLIC is beyond rude.

 

[EweSheep]

Personally, I find that telling someone that because they are overweight it means they do not take care of themselves highly offensive. Most women I know that are overweight go to great measures to take care of themselves.

Steph is one of them. She is always looking for opinions about how things look on her, looking for advise on clothing she chooses. She happens to care very much about her appearance, and her HUSBAND calling her a horrible name IN PUBLIC is beyond rude.

Well said!

 

[Matthew3590]

Sounds like it would be an excellent time for you two to try a new diet together? Maybe if you guys exercise you can do it together as well.

 

[frostbite]

Maybe I'm the only one here who agrees with the minister. I could only stand to read about the first five pages of this.

Sounds to me like the husband was boorish, but in this thread, the wife is speaking very disrespectfully about him as well. It takes two to make a relationship.

To the OP; The only thing you can change is yourself, and by discerning your own contribution to this situation, you can hope to make it better. If you want to stay married to him because you love him, you should get marriage counseling. It takes two to let a relationship degrade to this point. If you don't love him and don't intend to try, do yourself and him a favor and leave him.

Don't pick on the minister for trying to offer you helpful advice. Without introspection and a will to improve the relationship, this situation won't get better.

The pattern that I see so frequently, that the innocent victim is totally innocent and undeserving while the evil antagonist is completely the bad guy, worthy to be ridiculed, scorned, and condemned by dozens of people that don't know him, is almost never true.

I hope I don't sound critical of the OP, I'm sure she has had a rough time of it, but at some point we have to override our victim status and claim our lives back. Critical self-evaluation and personal change in behaviors and attitudes is the only way to not be a victim anymore. Please OP, find a trusted friend you can confess to, that isn't afraid to tell you when you are wrong, and that you can trust to continue to love you any way. This doesn't mean lose weight so hubby can't be boorish anymore, I have a feeling that weight isn't the issue here. It's just the public one.

Good luck, and may God bless you.

 

[Funky Feathers]

Thanks everyone, I really do appreciate ALL of your input. I respect the advice of the Minister as well. Hubby & I had a looong talk about this in the car today, and we agreed that neither of us is perfect, we both have issues, and he felt horrible after he realized how much he hurt me. He apologized the following day and today. I know he loves me, and I love him too. I stuck with him for 15 rough years of ups and downs before we Married. Something just told me (us) we were soul mates, even though I was not physically attracted to him. We have so much more than that. Intimacy is just his bonus prize, mine is food. He promised me that if it ever happens again he will go with me to counseling and go talk with the pastor who married us. I do have a good Therapist, and Psychiatrist. I see the latter on Tuesday. Having all the wonderful support from my fellow BYC'ers helps a lot.

I do feel much better after reading your kind words and talking it out with DH. Ordinarily he treats me like gold.

 

[Funky Feathers]

Oh- I am thinking of a new username: Funky Feathers (our farm name)

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

Oh- I am thinking of a new username: Funky Feathers (our farm name)

Now THIS is a great idea!

Rusty