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I have read and read and read. I often see people asking the same things one after the other and wonder why they don't just read. My husband wonders what I could possibilty be looking at about chickens all the time. But I was coming down to the line on the chicks coming when I discovered through "reading" about the fermented food. I had not heard of it before. I tried to find the info that I lacked but it would have taken me a very long time to read it all and then I may not have found what I lacked. I thought that the purpose of the forum was because folks liked to share info. I appreciate what I have learned from those who have raised chickens. I'm sorry if it's a lot of trouble for you.
No..it's not a lot of trouble for me...not now. But..you see..I was raised by some old fashioned folks who drilled in a work ethic and it kind of stuck. It may not appear like it if you read my posts because I'm all for simple, easy, less work, more good ergonomics on routines, etc. and it would appear like I'm a lazy person. And I am in a lot of ways...I like to take it easy as much as the next person. That's one reason I streamline my life...I like an easy work routine. I'm lazy about some things and I fully admit it.

But..I don't often expect others to do my work for me that I won't do for myself. I draw the line at that. If I were disabled or sick or needed the help for some reason beyond my control, I would love and appreciate the help, but to just expect folks to do my work for me? It just doesn't seem right.
So I'm hung up on principles and old habits of expecting folks to do their own work whenever possible and not expecting others to do it for them unless they have a darn good reason and need the help. I love helping folks...it's what I was born for and my whole life has been one big helping of others and I love it. I don't even see it as a chore because I have joy in it. One thing I don't like, however, is feeling like I'm being taken advantage of just because I like to help folks.
Sometimes certain posts feel like the people are taking advantage of others simply because they don't want to do their own work. When the post starts with words like "I don't want to do all the reading so can you answer my lists of questions. Thanks so much" it feels much like someone feels like others should be their slave because they don't want to do their own work. I could be very wrong about that and forgive me if I am assuming or presuming to know what is going on in that person's life but from this side that's what it feels like... just sometimes. Not all the time...but sometimes. No one likes to feel like they are being taken for granted or taken advantage of simply because they are nice enough to help.

Sometimes I can answer those repetitive questions all day long and twice on Sunday, but sometimes I feel like a person is taking advantage of a kindness and maybe it's just the tone or wording, but it happens now and again and it never feels good. I try to get past it but it still feels wrong, somehow. It could just be me and my hang ups, though, so just ignore it if you think I'm being too sensitive.