Foster/Adoptive Parent Rant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Boyd]

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They must be very close, but yeah, I had those same thoughts... but I don't write these laws........

Hey.. if something happens its on them..not you...

yeah, but the only comeback that comes to mind on those lines are

If something does happen....

Kill em all, but leave 6 for pallbearers.

 

[redhen]

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since a year ago I almost killed a bio parent who showed up unexpectedly to get their kid back (illegally), no one is allowed to come to my house, nor is ANYone allowed to give out my address. our licensing department is very aware of the 80lb highly trained mush brained baby kissing furball, and the fact that next time, I will empty the clip, insert the next and keep firing till the twitching stops.

I don't like folks dropping in unannounced. Not healthy for most folks. And since both agencies indicated neither was transporting in this case, well if I say go fly a kite, then the adoptive family is sure out of luck.

OOh no.. they cant come to my house unannounced either. They have to set up a time with me.... a time they are coming to pick him up...and a drop off time...
If they ever showed up at my house unannounced the kid would not go with them.... and then visits would stop. And they would only have visits at the agengy during therapy times.
I'm more than willing to work with parents.. and, of course, i do all the time...
but.. they need to respect mine and the agency's guidelines...
some do... some dont.

 

[redhen]

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Hey.. if something happens its on them..not you...

yeah, but the only comeback that comes to mind on those lines are

If something does happen....

Kill em all, but leave 6 for pallbearers.

 

[love_a_duck]

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Oh yeah, that or a flame thrower!

yeah, these parents do not sound like they are ready for the big huge job of parenting an abused child.
if you will not work with them, maybe the other agencies will get it?


beth

 

[Ema]

I agree with everyone else, not unreasonable you have tons of training and it sound sliek you are picking up on something. if she can be that nasty and disrespectful to you imagine how she will speak to this little one. changing plans etc, rude behaviour and lack or proper communication on thier part when they are tyring to adopt a child are huge red flags. I came from a broken home been through all kinds of stuff and I recognize this as an issue. They are not sounding like they are very responsible people at all. you want what is best for this child and good for you for speaking up on her behalf and looking out for her. I wish more kids had someone like you to back them up!!!!

 

[Ema]

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First, let me say I love Michigan.
But there are places you don't want to be, and for god's sake, that is one of them.
I was there once, I got lost dropping someone off, and

wow, it was scary.

If the adoptive mom thinks it is too much trouble or not worth going to a decent place for drop off/ exchange,
I think there is a big problem here Boyd.
I understand your frustration and ranting about this.
It is about the safety and security of that little girl.

Why are you doing this to them?

Geez, isnt it about the little girl?
Them becoming responsible parents?

Bless you for taking on this tireless and obviously sometimes thankless job.

Beth

This is one of the area's I usually have my Glock with me.

I too am very familiar with this area, I got lost while goign to visit my MIL and FIL I had my baby girl with me and it was nearing dark. I ended up in this area and there were raod closures everywhere because of some marathon. I got really scared and I tried to signal for a police officer to help me, he literally got back in his car and drive away even though he clearly saw me and heard me.
After a brief panick and seeing people come out to the stret and staring at me I decided I was already lost but had a full tank, I was goign to drive and to somewhere I felt comfortable, funny enough I found the border and I just went home.

 

[EweSheep]

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Ditto!

That would send me some red flags all over the place! I would have been RED HOT!

 

[redhen]

Yup.. its not a good sign when you want to adopt a child and you're trying to manipulate the foster parents.

 

[Boyd]

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but the worst of it is, if they don't fix this, I am going to move the kid. I can't disrupt my family very much right now. If they show up where and when they are supposed to things are good, but with the wife recovering from surgery, baby boy who wasn't due till this sat who popped out 6 weeks early, the 6 girls n 3 boys I already have........... Plus work .............. Plus sib/parent visits plus therapy plus summer school plus...................................

Oh yeah, were also moving this week.....

I know I have too much going on, but I planned the move to coincide with the end of summer schoolish, and a couple weeks before the wife was due to have tim. Well, lil buddy wanted to come early, agency needed a quick hand in placing a tough to handle 9 year old (who's now 10) and like a Dummy I volunteered. I love kids, what can I say

 

[Ema]

you should know you are doing the best you can do. The bottom line is that you have a family to take care of and now your wife also needs your support more than ever. I have to say congratulations on your baby boy and I do hope both baby and mom are doing well. Just remember not to psread yourself too thin, even though it sounds liek you are already doing so....we have a name for men like that in my household, my kids came up with the name...its called...Super daddy!!!