Freecycle ad just rubbing me wrong.

[Cetawin]

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Where did you get the idea a beating was going to take place? You can paddle a child a not beat them...good grief that mindset is what is wrong with the youth of today.

I am 45 years old and got my fanny tore up by hickory switches, a belt, a boat oar once, wooden spoons, a heavy hand....it never killed me, I am not emotionally or mentally distraught but I did to obey my parents and elders, behave in a respectful manner and understand what is acceptable and what is not. I would never have thought to smart off at my parents or to be rude to an elder. I did not answer with "yeah" I answered with yes maam or no maam. And I did not ever fear my parents.

Now what in the name of all that it is holy is wrong with that?


Some children do not GET IT with timeouts, lectures, grounding and etc. Just as children learn by different means...visual, audio, hands on etc. They are not all alike. My son, never a problem talking to him. My daughter...I could ground her, timeout her and take away everything but her bed , dresser and lamp for 4 months...she would wait you out. But, bust her backside and suddenly she got a clue.

At least this parent (if it is a parent) is trying to discipline their child after obviously trying other methods. do not be so hasty to ASSume.

Sorry this is a pet peeve of mine big time...and it only gets worse when I see these disrespectful hooligans on our streets who needed a good spanking years ago.

 

[danischi24]

I got grounded, timed out, the heavy hand, the wooden spoon, the hairbrush & "Mr Stick" from outside. It never made a difference when I was a kid but now, I'm a pretty O.K adult & when I have children, they will get the same as I got.

 

[preppy*hippie*chick]

My mom was a hard core wooden spoon lady. The ones with the holes. Soap in the mouth for bad words too!

 

[Break an Egg]

I don't like spanking, but anytime I reach for the fly swatter 5 rowdy kids turn into 5 mommy's angels. lol

I leave the spanking to dad unless they have really done something disrespectful. I we are a pretty old fashioned household, the kids have chores that rotate every day. I think giving them some extra hard work is worse than a spanking for them any day.

 

[agnes_day]

my husband does the spanking here, they wallow around too much for me!

 

[gabrielle1976]

Do I think spanking used as a tool can be helpfull and not damageing , you bet , do I think there are kids out there today despertly in need of a good spanking , probably.
My thing is though its not just that people dont spank any more , becuase you know what alot of people do heck I know people that still beat there kids. Which I dont agree with. Whats really changed between now and 20 years ago or 50 years ago isnt the physical punishment its the commetment , parents these days would rather go out and work all day and make money to buy THINGS with and plop there kids with other people or infront of a TV then actually parent them. How can kids grow and be loveing happy individuals when there own parents have better things to do then be with them , think about it the avrage school age child wakes up and goes to school around the time the parents wake up and go to work no good family time there theere at school all day and when they get out they usually go to the sitters till its time for dinner , or some kids stay by themselves at home. Do the parents then come home and spend a quaility dinner and evening with them NOPE lots of times they are shunted from the tv to the dinner table , back to the tv then to bed .. Rinse and repeat.
Thats whats wrong with our kids today , not that people arnt allowed to beat there children.

 

[bluey]

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Where did you get the idea a beating was going to take place? You can paddle a child a not beat them...good grief that mindset is what is wrong with the youth of today.

I am 45 years old and got my fanny tore up by hickory switches, a belt, a boat oar once, wooden spoons, a heavy hand....it never killed me, I am not emotionally or mentally distraught but I did to obey my parents and elders, behave in a respectful manner and understand what is acceptable and what is not. I would never have thought to smart off at my parents or to be rude to an elder. I did not answer with "yeah" I answered with yes maam or no maam. And I did not ever fear my parents.

Now what in the name of all that it is holy is wrong with that?


Some children do not GET IT with timeouts, lectures, grounding and etc. Just as children learn by different means...visual, audio, hands on etc. They are not all alike. My son, never a problem talking to him. My daughter...I could ground her, timeout her and take away everything but her bed , dresser and lamp for 4 months...she would wait you out. But, bust her backside and suddenly she got a clue.

At least this parent (if it is a parent) is trying to discipline their child after obviously trying other methods. do not be so hasty to ASSume.

Sorry this is a pet peeve of mine big time...and it only gets worse when I see these disrespectful hooligans on our streets who needed a good spanking years ago.

Well spoken 'Cet...

If parents refuse to discipline their children, chances are that life will, sooner or later and much harsher than a switch or paddle.

 

[Boyd]

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They used those at the schools!! A wooden spoon, ping pong paddles with holes drilled in them, they get your attention like nothing else will.

 

[Boyd]

A little off topic about the paddle........ I saw this ad on freecycle too, and we all had a few laughs before the mods took it down.

Free to good home. Complete set of Encyclopedia Brittanica's, just got married, wife knows everything.

 

[farmerlor]

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Where did you get the idea a beating was going to take place? You can paddle a child a not beat them...good grief that mindset is what is wrong with the youth of today.

I am 45 years old and got my fanny tore up by hickory switches, a belt, a boat oar once, wooden spoons, a heavy hand....it never killed me, I am not emotionally or mentally distraught but I did to obey my parents and elders, behave in a respectful manner and understand what is acceptable and what is not. I would never have thought to smart off at my parents or to be rude to an elder. I did not answer with "yeah" I answered with yes maam or no maam. And I did not ever fear my parents.

Now what in the name of all that it is holy is wrong with that?


Some children do not GET IT with timeouts, lectures, grounding and etc. Just as children learn by different means...visual, audio, hands on etc. They are not all alike. My son, never a problem talking to him. My daughter...I could ground her, timeout her and take away everything but her bed , dresser and lamp for 4 months...she would wait you out. But, bust her backside and suddenly she got a clue.

At least this parent (if it is a parent) is trying to discipline their child after obviously trying other methods. do not be so hasty to ASSume.

Sorry this is a pet peeve of mine big time...and it only gets worse when I see these disrespectful hooligans on our streets who needed a good spanking years ago.

Well spoken 'Cet...

If parents refuse to discipline their children, chances are that life will, sooner or later and much harsher than a switch or paddle.

Discipline is different than punishment. You can discipline a child and they can learn a lesson without ever having to hit the child. We had to learn the difference when we started fostering as you are not ever allowed to hit a foster child. The Love and Logic program was the best thing that ever happened to our kids. They are responsible for their actions and learn with logical consequences instead of punishment and pain. Not in any way judging anyone who does choose to spank-I was raised with spanking and I'm more or less normal but I wanted to put in a plug for those of us who choose NOT to spank and remind everyone that it doesn't necessarily mean that we have kids who are unruly or that our children think we are their pals. We are definitely the parents doing a parent's job-teaching their children to be productive members of society and happy individuals.