I grew up on the farm I now manage. I hated working in the garden, and while I took care of the animals- they never went without the necessities- I didn't go the extra mile and really think about what they needed and wanted.
So what changed? I became invested in the farm when I really owned it. I researched which crops to buy, where to put them, how to irrigate and all that stuff. Before this, my mother did all that stuff and I was completely dependent on her to tell me where to plant, how far apart to put the seeds, etc... I was just manual labor and it was incredibly frustrating.
Having the responsibility of planning and than carrying out the plan changed everything for me.
I can't say that if I had that responsibility at a younger age it would've been the same; it may be that your son is still just too immature. Looking back, I don't think I had any really long term vision, any ability to plan and carry out until I was about 15. It may be that your son is still just too immature, he may just need time to develop, I don't know.
I sure don't envy your responsibility.
So that's been my experience anyway, I hope it can help you.
So what changed? I became invested in the farm when I really owned it. I researched which crops to buy, where to put them, how to irrigate and all that stuff. Before this, my mother did all that stuff and I was completely dependent on her to tell me where to plant, how far apart to put the seeds, etc... I was just manual labor and it was incredibly frustrating.
Having the responsibility of planning and than carrying out the plan changed everything for me.
I can't say that if I had that responsibility at a younger age it would've been the same; it may be that your son is still just too immature. Looking back, I don't think I had any really long term vision, any ability to plan and carry out until I was about 15. It may be that your son is still just too immature, he may just need time to develop, I don't know.
So that's been my experience anyway, I hope it can help you.
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