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Graduation invitations. What are they for really?

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by dizzychicken, Apr 21, 2009.

  1. dizzychicken

    dizzychicken Songster

    Feb 24, 2009
    I mean besides asking you to attend. What is Graduation invitation etiquette? Do you send money or what?

    These are very special kids that are in my daughters, who passed away their freshman year, class. I want to do something special, but there are many and I am not able to give much. Should I send any or nothing. I don't want to send something cheesy and be thought of as a cheapskate.
    Last edited: Apr 21, 2009

  2. Mahonri

    Mahonri Urban Desert Chicken Enthusiast Premium Member

    May 14, 2008
    North Phoenix
    My Coop
    First it means that they were thinking of you.

    Unfortunately, second, some kids give them out in hopes of gifts.

    If you can't afford anything. Let them know you received their card with a nice card of your own congratulating them... It can even be a homemade card.

    If you feel you have to give something, do, but don't feel like a cheapskate, remember it's the thought that counts.
  3. English Chick

    English Chick English Mum

    Jun 27, 2008
    Cheshire UK
    Quote:Ditto in total agreement with M..... it's always the thought that is important and not the gift.....
  4. SarahBeth9394

    SarahBeth9394 Songster

    Aug 23, 2008
    Quote:I am so sorry for your loss and can't begin to imagine what you have gone through and are still going through.

    We never called them invitations. They were always called announcements and their purpose was to announce their accomplishment. They were for the parents to send out. Parents chose who they went to and if there were extras they were given to friends. Unless there is an insert with an invitation to a certain individuals post ceremony get together a gift isn't necessary. However if it helps you to send something and you don't want it cheesey or expensive I would go through old photos and if you have some of your daughter with her friends have some copies made, frame them, and send them. Also if it's not something that you are up to on an emotional level then don't do it. The girls shouldn't expect anything and my guess is that they don't.

    We are going through something similar here. A boy at my daughters school committed suicide last year. This is a small town, the high school only has about 360 students, and they all know each other. This was to be his graduation year. One of the parents made a memorial quilt for his parents. She wanted to have it presented to them at the ceremony this year. I kept my opinion to myself (which was it may just be too difficult for his parents to attend the ceremony much less a big presentation). Well she had someone ask the father about it and he said basically what I was thinking. So the quilt is going to be quietly given to the mom. The feeling out here is people are trying to do for them. I think that is the reason for the announcement. To remind them that they as well as their child is loved and missed.
  5. junebug7334

    junebug7334 Songster

    Sep 24, 2008
    maybe a picutre and some special poem about your daughter?? Or-

    this is random- but a small travel sewing kit. That's what I gave when I didn't want to give money but something useful.. I doubt many have one, and they ARE useful.
  6. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Quote:A very nice card and a small gift card to a fast food restaurant is always appreciated by ANY teen.

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