Granny's gone and done it again

[Granny Hatchet]

Nothing interesting honestly. My mom finally got the divorce papers filed (my dad was making it difficult so it took a while). She did it yesterday..wasn't planned but surely a Valentine's day I'd never forget lol. Other than that, I've also learned over my break that police suck Movies definitely overexaggerate how good the American legal system is. And also, all my animals have to go. It's not really something I'm inclined to do, but after a talk with my mom, I've come to believe it's for the best. Leaving them here not only makes it harder for us, but it also does for them too.

I missed this post. Im so sorry Cherry. Huge hugs my friend.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Nothing interesting honestly. My mom finally got the divorce papers filed (my dad was making it difficult so it took a while). She did it yesterday..wasn't planned but surely a Valentine's day I'd never forget lol. Other than that, I've also learned over my break that police suck Movies definitely overexaggerate how good the American legal system is. And also, all my animals have to go. It's not really something I'm inclined to do, but after a talk with my mom, I've come to believe it's for the best. Leaving them here not only makes it harder for us, but it also does for them too.

Aw honey, I'm so sorry! This hardly files under the "nothing interesting" category, though! This sounds stressful and devastating on several levels. Typical of you to put a brave face on everything though. The sun will shine again some day. You and your mom and your siblings will get through all this in time. Don't hesitate to come hang out with us here when you just need to chill. You know we are always here for you and we love you!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

funny you mention it. Of all the things my parent's "situation" has affected, school isn't one of them. Definitely made it difficult, but not terrible. I've made several friends, but not any super close ones. I'm honestly closer to my teachers lol...I swear I'm an old soul or smth. I ended up dropping art and switching it out with trig. I just can't stand the teacher, she takes the joy out of art

Oof, sorry to hear! You're so good at art! Have missed your sketches and drawings.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

My dad was an alcoholic too. He was something else. He never said sorry ever.

Neither one of my parents did either. Only good thing that came out of their drinking is that it convinced me not to, ever. By age six.

 

[cherrynberry]

My dad was an alcoholic too. He was something else. He never said sorry ever.

I don't know if I'd go as far to say that about my dad. he's drunk nearly every time he drinks but doesn't drink every day. He's mostly suddenly cold, suddenly hot. I honestly wish he was either or. Half the time I don't know if I should love him or hate him...it messes with my brain so much. For more than half my life I've chosen to forgive and forget. But I can't anymore, I wish he could recover, get better, but I'm not going to hold my breath for it anymore. I hadn't realized when you said it then, but you once told me that you can't stand arguments anymore...I can't either. every argument I have with my dad takes something from me...it's far too draining. Of course it doesn't affect him though, cause why would it?



ughhh. hate that I'm rambling again. sorry ya'll

 

[Granny Hatchet]

I don't know if I'd go as far to say that about my dad. he's drunk nearly every time he drinks but doesn't drink every day. He's mostly suddenly cold, suddenly hot. I honestly wish he was either or. Half the time I don't know if I should love him or hate him...it messes with my brain so much. For more than half my life I've chosen to forgive and forget. But I can't anymore, I wish he could recover, get better, but I'm not going to hold my breath for it anymore. I hadn't realized when you said it then, but you once told me that you can't stand arguments anymore...I can't either. every argument I have with my dad takes something from me...it's far too draining. Of course it doesn't affect him though, cause why would it?



ughhh. hate that I'm rambling again. sorry ya'll

its all true. You just have to remember its his problem. Dont let him make it yours. I have cut those type of people out of my circle. Its hard to do but worth it for my own piece of mind. I will walk away long before I will let someone tear me up.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Come back Cherry, we will talk about something else. Like I dont remember what dog you have, are you keeping him/her?

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Love him, Cherry, but don't expect him to be other than what he is. You can't control him, but you can control you. When he's drinking, remember he's not in his right mind, AT ALL. Best to stay away from him at those times. Voice of (painful) experience here. I also, as an adult, had to "divorce" my alcoholic parent in order to gain and maintain my own sanity. I could not be around her at all, she was too abusive.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Sorry.


So I got ELEVEN eggs today!

Oh dear. I got 11 eggs today!

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Blue IDK how we ever managed to grow up into responsible adults. My mom had some type of personality disorder. She too was abused growing up. Its a vicious circle . One Im glad I broke.