Granny's gone and done it again

[BigBlueHen53]

Oops, time to read. BRB

 

[lovesfarms]

It's not life or death.I m frustrated I couldnt be home much this week cause of appointments. I wanted to WORK today. DH had some airbrushed shirts that needed delivered (meet a customer), I felt sorry cause he would have liked to go to a local auction so I delivered them. I still had half a day left...hurry. On the way home he called me- our new 2024 trucks brakes stopped working and the steering locked. Of course he can't find the insurance or roadside assistance, and can't find a# to the dealership and he's freaking out beside the road.
I went to him and started up the truck and there was no engine light. The new trucks are so automatic I figured he hit a wrong button & paniced. Hed gotten it into a parking lot & after I talked to the dealership, he drove it a couple ft& the light came on. Decided to tow it to the dealership and roadside won't do it till I pay $172, it's 50m. It's what happens when you live rural. Oil was squirting out when the tow driver lifted the hood so I assume the sensors made the truck lock. I hope it's covered by the warranty. My whole day was gone including the money that was ear marked for other bills. I'm probably most frustrated because he doesn't want me doing the man's work but nobody can work with him when he panics.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

It's not life or death.I m frustrated I couldnt be home much this week cause of appointments. I wanted to WORK today. DH had some airbrushed shirts that needed delivered (meet a customer), I felt sorry cause he would have liked to go to a local auction so I delivered them. I still had half a day left...hurry. On the way home he called me- our new 2024 trucks brakes stopped working and the steering locked. Of course he can't find the insurance or roadside assistance, and can't find a# to the dealership and he's freaking out beside the road.
I went to him and started up the truck and there was no engine light. The new trucks are so automatic I figured he hit a wrong button & paniced. Hed gotten it into a parking lot & after I talked to the dealership, he drove it a couple ft& the light came on. Decided to tow it to the dealership and roadside won't do it till I pay $172, it's 50m. It's what happens when you live rural. Oil was squirting out when the tow driver lifted the hood so I assume the sensors made the truck lock. I hope it's covered by the warranty. My whole day was gone including the money that was ear marked for other bills. I'm probably most frustrated because he doesn't want me doing the man's work but nobody can work with him when he panics.

ugh!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Sorry this happened, Farms, hope it wotks out for the best. I'm so glad we have AAA. We also live rural and I can't tell you how many times we have vehicles towed into town. Three vehicles, 30 miles to town, it's always something! We certainly get our money's worth! We all carry our AAA cards in our wallets ... I brt there is no three-month period that one of our vehicles doesn't get towed for one reason or another, even if it is just a nail in a tire.

 

[Nomadicus]

They had buy one get on free Pepridge Farms frozen cakes on sale today. One Coconut and One chocolate fudge just had to come home with us. The Chocolate fudge is missing a lot of body parts.

 

[Nomadicus]

I need to fill a pill tray... BBS

 

[Cynthia12]

I've had a hard day too. This depression just hits out of no where. I'm still having a hard time being alone. I miss Scott.
Granny you've got a thread here where a lot of us can come and let it out. I'm glad. I need to somewhere where folks can understand. I don't want to whine to the kids. They don't need it. Having said that Bronwyn asked me a while ago if I was ok. I nodded yes. She says, just wondered because you're so quiet. You know what entered my brain when she said that being in this state of mind. .. I guess I talk too much. I didn't say that out loud of course.
Hoping I'm feeling better soon. I don't like this. I'm usually the happy guy..umm..gal.
I haven’t read yet either Blue. It should help.

 

[lovesfarms]

Sorry this happened, Farms, hope it wotks out for the best. I'm so glad we have AAA. We also live rural and I can't tell you how many times we have vehicles towed into town. Three vehicles, 30 miles to town, it's always something! We certainly get our money's worth! We all carry our AAA cards in our wallets ... I brt there is no three-month period that one of our vehicles doesn't get towed for one reason or another, even if it is just a nail in a tire.

We have roadside assistance with progressive but they only cover 15 miles and I thought we were safe with a new vehicle that we won't need more coverage. I didn't trust the small shops since we had problems with the last one. A flat tire, yes. But the Mopar app showed engine failure and I would rather take it to the dealership we bought it from since it's a new vehicle. DH is besides himself so I'm leaving him alone in his room tonight.

 

[lovesfarms]

I've had a hard day too. This depression just hits out of no where. I'm still having a hard time being alone. I miss Scott.
Granny you've got a thread here where a lot of us can come and let it out. I'm glad. I need to somewhere where folks can understand. I don't want to whine to the kids. They don't need it. Having said that Bronwyn asked me a while ago if I was ok. I nodded yes. She says, just wondered because you're so quiet. You know what entered my brain when she said that being in this state of mind. .. I guess I talk too much. I didn't say that out loud of course.
Hoping I'm feeling better soon. I don't like this. I'm usually the happy guy..umm..gal.
I haven’t read yet either Blue. It should help.

You know, when you are a caretaker and do more for the other person then yourself, your life revolves around that person that Your hands feel so empty when they are gone it makes you feel worthless. Your hands are too empty

 

[BigBlueHen53]

I've had a hard day too. This depression just hits out of no where. I'm still having a hard time being alone. I miss Scott.
Granny you've got a thread here where a lot of us can come and let it out. I'm glad. I need to somewhere where folks can understand. I don't want to whine to the kids. They don't need it. Having said that Bronwyn asked me a while ago if I was ok. I nodded yes. She says, just wondered because you're so quiet. You know what entered my brain when she said that being in this state of mind. .. I guess I talk too much. I didn't say that out loud of course.
Hoping I'm feeling better soon. I don't like this. I'm usually the happy guy..umm..gal.
I haven’t read yet either Blue. It should help.

That's not what she meant at all! (Where I highlighted). She was just observing the contrast - where you are normally cheerful and engaging, she noticed you were withdrawn and subdued. You're not your normal self and she was concerned, that's all. And it's not whining when you share how you feel! Of course you miss Scott! It would be crazy if you didn't. And honestly, they probably do too! Wasn't he their dad/stepdad? They're probably keeping a stiff upper lip and trying to be brave for YOU! Maybe you all need to have a group hug and a good cry together. I remember, after my Calvin died, there were times I would go to my DD and just tell her, I need a hug! I really miss him! And it would help. We'd sit over a cup of tea and share some good memories, maybe a laugh or two ... it helped. Don't be a soldier, Cynthia. Grieving is a process. Let yourself feel what you feel. It's healing. Your kids understand.