Granny's gone and done it again

[BigBlueHen53]

There are no good answers here, Granny, but you don't want to blow that stent or whatever they are going to put in your leg. Tom will likely forget the misery of a few days in the nursing home while you recover, and if you don't take care of yourself you could end up needing an amputation. And how long will he be in the NH while you recover from THAT? Or, will he ever be able to come home, because will you ever be able to take care of him? He needs you to take care of yourself so that you can take care of him. You have to put yourself first this time.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

stent and the other thing is a new way to do bypass.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

I wish I had this place in Roberts name and I hope I haven't waited too long. I should of had a will made long before this. IF Tom and I both end up in a home they will force a sale of the house tossing him out on the streets. There is a law in place that says If your child is special needs he would be allowed to keep the home. There are other adult children that could cause a hassle for him but Robert has used his SS to help us with the household and he deserves it. Some of the others haven't even spoke to their father.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

anyway, Im gonna go for the night. Gnight Blue.lurkers if any. Sweet dreams

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Good night, Granny.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

I wish I had this place in Roberts name and I hope I haven't waited too long. I should of had a will made long before this. IF Tom and I both end up in a home they will force a sale of the house tossing him out on the streets. There is a law in place that says If your child is special needs he would be allowed to keep the home. There are other adult children that could cause a hassle for him but Robert has used his SS to help us with the household and he deserves it. Some of the others haven't even spoke to their father.

Well I was going to suggest you hanwrite your wishes in the form of what's called a holographic will, but Indiana does not acknowledge them as valid. Shoot. (Neither does MO.) Guess I'll be contacting a lawyer, too.

 

[Finchbreeder]

Mum has done a will giving me and youngest sis, the right to sort things out, but we have been told what she wants, and even youngest sis knows to listen to me because I'm the one that lives nearest and gets all the updates in decisions. The other 2 have been told.
We have a will leaving everything to each other, or if we both drop off the perch the kids get equal shares.
Everyone really should do a will as soon as they have kids, because life can knock you over without warning.
My Dad missed his 55th birthday and that made us learn fast.
Even if you don't have kids it's still a good idea, because someone you don't like or who does not deserve anything could get it all if you don't. Laws are not aware of situations, just relationships.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

True that, Finch! And probate is a royal pain and takes forever. We want everything to go to the grandkids we are currently raising, not my 50-year old kids, their kids, our brothers and sisters and THEIR kids and grandkids, which is what probate would do. They'd have to sell the house and cars and everybody would end up with a check for $125, and our kids would be homeless and afoot. No, no, no!

 

[Cynthia12]

And remember, get a Trust along with the Will. It's more powerful than a Will.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

And remember, get a Trust along with the Will. It's more powerful than a Will.

Will talk to an attorney about this, thanks.