Granny's gone and done it again

[Granny Hatchet]

I have been surprised a few times by his mouth but I was able to redirect him. He told me he was going to cuss her. I did ask him what was the point of going then and I Think I told him I will leave.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Well has it happened before? Why does he cuss the doctor? And how does she deal with it? I assume she knows he is autistic?

She said he couldnt be seen w/o a mask and now she is making a one time exception so he can get his blood drawn. He is way over due. I called them to give her a heads up.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

He said he can sue her if she refuses to see him because the ADA says he cant be discrimanated against

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Excuse my spelling, its terrible. LOL

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Is that discrimination?

 

[Wishing4Wings]

so when he cusses her, If he does Do I walk out, ignore it or go bizirk on him?

How about a calm, matter of fact comment from you. Something like, Robert, this is an example of what I was trying to explain to you when we were talking. Just because you don't like the situation (or what was said to you) doesn't mean you have to react react like that. You are too intelligent to embarrass yourself like that, and I know you can do better.

You stay calm, express disappointment in him while at the same time encouraging with a compliment and higher expectations of him. Calm is the key. It's a learning opportunity, that's it. If you react angry or crazy, then you end up doing exactly what you are asking him to stop doing. You have to model the right behaviors. Show him how it's done!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Excuse my spelling, its terrible. LOL

No worries.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

They are also making him sneek in the back door.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

How about a calm, matter of fact comment from you. Something like, Robert, this is an example of what I was trying to explain to you when we were talking. Just because you don't like the situation (or what was said to you) doesn't mean you have to react react like that. You are too intelligent to embarrass yourself like that, and I know you can do better.

You stay calm, express disappointment in him while at the same time encouraging with a compliment and higher expectations of him. Calm is the key. It's a learning opportunity, that's it. If you react angry or crazy, then you end up doing exactly what you are asking him to stop doing. You have to model the right behaviors. Show him how it's done!

I love that, Wishing! Where were you when I needed parenting?

 

[Granny Hatchet]

How about a calm, matter of fact comment from you. Something like, Robert, this is an example of what I was trying to explain to you when we were talking. Just because you don't like the situation (or what was said to you) doesn't mean you have to react react like that. You are too intelligent to embarrass yourself like that, and I know you can do better.

You stay calm, express disappointment in him while at the same time encouraging with a compliment and higher expectations of him. Calm is the key. It's a learning opportunity, that's it. If you react angry or crazy, then you end up doing exactly what you are asking him to stop doing. You have to model the right behaviors. Show him how it's done!

thats great advise Wishing. If I can employ that . I need to mke it my own words. If I said that exactly he would know it wasnt coming from me.