Granny's gone and done it again

[pertnear09]

Granny, I'm so sorry I haven't been here. My daughter is in jail and her husband's car got impounded and I'm doing my best over here to try to help them and ... I can't. I keep trying and jumping through hoops and ... there is nothing I can do. I'm sorry, I'm a little distracted over here. They are in TX.

I'm sorry about all that, Blue. Those grown kids can sure make you grieve sometimes. I'm sure I caused a little distress to my folks as well.

 

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@BigBlueHen53 I'm so sorry. Minister once said, you can give your children the best of your experience and knowledge but when all is said and done, once they are adults, it's up to them whether they use them or not.

If you need a shoulder to lean on you know how to reach me.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

aww, Im sorry Blue. I can only imagine how that hurts.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

I'm sorry about all that, Blue. Those grown kids can sure make you grieve sometimes. I'm sure I caused a little distress to my folks as well.

My DD has mental health issues. Her dr changed her meds and it did not go well. Her DH, who has had several strokes, calls 911 and does not think to say she is having a health issue, take her to the hospital, he calls the cops and has her taken to jail. It's just ... difficult.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

You brought back a memory Blue. I was in fact supposed to go to jail but it was Ga. in the 80s and women were treated differently. We rented a trailer and it had ratty threads for curtains in it. I asked the landlord if I could take them down and use my own. He said yes and I stored his curtains in a cubby there. I had a brand new baby and the first night there the roaches came like an army. They were falling off the ceilings and landing in our bed. I got up, went to my babys crib and they were crawling on her. All of my belongings were left in there and I left in the middle of the night and went to my moms house. That dirty landlord took a warrant on me for stealing his curtains! My ex asked the po-po if he could take my place and was told yes. $45.00 bailed him out. He then dropped charges.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

My DD has mental health issues. Her dr changed her meds and it did not go well. Her DH, who has had several strokes, calls 911 and does not think to say she is having a health issue, take her to the hospital, he calls the cops and has her taken to jail. It's just ... difficult.

Can you call the police and tell them this? Maybe her Dr. could? I think the Dr. would carry a lot of weight here

 

[Granny Hatchet]

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Happened with my mother when her dementia hit hard. I went out hoping to talk to her doc and get her admitted to the hospital. He wasn't in. By the time I got home I found her in the bathroom beating my dad with a 1X2 board. Blood was everywhere and he was covered with blood. I grabbed him, our dogs as I feared for everyone's safety at that point and loaded us all in my car. We wound up at our neighbors where I called 911. Rescue and Po Po came screaming in. Loaded dad in the ambulance. I was sobbing told them my mother needed to go to the hospital also as she wasn't a violent person until recently and I feared something was wrong with her. They arrested her instead. Turns out they were the laughing stock of three counties for arresting a 75 year old woman with a personality change indicative of a change in medical status instead of taking her to the hospital along with my dad. Dad had 89 sutures in him. They released mom to my custody, no bail no charges and kept it private (to cut their embarrassment I now suspect) and I got her to the hospital's psyche unit. What a nightmare.

If you can find a local crisis intervention in TX where she is jailed, call them and see if they can help you.

@pertnear09, I don't think I caused my family nearly the gray hairs they caused me during that time period. We were pretty good kids all things considered. Didn't drink to excess, didn't use drugs. Nobody got pregnant. Oh, we were the usual rebellious and mouthy but yeah pretty much normal kids.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Can you call the police and tell them this? Maybe her Dr. could? I think the Dr. would carry a lot of weight here

I can't get a real person at the jail and she seems stable now. I don't know who her dr is. Maybe she can tell me when I talk to her tomorrow. It's only $50 to bail her out but he has no car to go get her, and the bail bonds people want someone to come in and co-sign for her and without him she doesn't have anybody. Did I already say all this? I can't seem to do it from here because they can't come after me if she skips. Which she wouldn't.

Granny, MC, thank you for sharing your stories with me. You don't know what a comfort it is to know this shtuff happens to other people.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

If you can find a local crisis intervention in TX where she is jailed, call them and see if they can help you.

Thank you, MC, I will try this tomorrow. I will also try my church in that area tomorrow. I've been too stressed to think clearly.