Great DH, bad dogs! another update page 11

[redhen]

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I've read it...it makes you look at people and the mind games they play ALOT different.

 

[Califowlday]

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I've read it...it makes you look at people and the mind games they play ALOT different.

I thought it was very eye opening book and makes you realize that there is a reason why some people hurt you and appear to not care.. it's because they really don't care! lol

 

[Judy]

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Read the thread. It was and is her house.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

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I know, even people who keep their homes super clean with pets inside...when I can go in there and smell the 'pet odor' everytime. My DH would have a holy cow if I brought an animal inside our home and he would most likey kick it like a football out the front door...and he has done that before...

A man that has issues like this doesn't always mean he is a control freak.....My dh has lots of issues with animals and me but in no way is my DH controlling. Your husband has concerns and feelings too and they should be respected as yours should be. That is why you should both have lots of communications and then MORE communications on finding a solution. Anyone telling you to kick him to the curb is not giving you good advice IMO and not trying to actually HELP your situation. He has issues so try and help him deal with it. Don't be demanding or have the 'show you the door' attitude with him...that is not the way to solve a problem in a marriage. Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high...people aren't willing to 'give' to their partners feelings and think they are just being mean, don't love you, etc.....

The man deserves to live comfortably as you do and I don't think you should have to get rid of your dogs but putting them outside would be a big plus.

Some men deal with things differntly than others. Find a way to help him through this and find a way to get him to compramise with you. I know it seems you are having the short end of the stick here but if you value your marriage at all you will go above and beyond what is required to keep a happy marriage.

..and I am not saying find a way to make JUST him happy...you have to find a way to keep you BOTH happy =-)

...and I bet putting those dogs OUTSIDE will help tremendously!!!!! And yes you can put them outside. I have a tiny dog that lives outside. You could fix them up a run, a house, and a nice cozy spot outside...and still bring them in to love on but let them live outside.

 

[texasgirl]

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Yeah, putting a 17 year old dog that's never spent more than a few minutes outside sounds like an excellent idea, she'd be better off putting it to sleep than to traumatize it like that.
The young dogs I could compromise on if it were me...maybe they spend the day outside and sleep in crates indoors at night or something but the old dog should not be put to live outside no matter what.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

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Yeah, putting a 17 year old dog that's never spent more than a few minutes outside sounds like an excellent idea, she'd be better off putting it to sleep than to traumatize it like that.
The young dogs I could compromise on if it were me...maybe they spend the day outside and sleep in crates indoors at night or something but the old dog should not be put to live outside no matter what.

The dog would be just fine. It most likely would be happier outside. It could have a nice fenced in 'housy' spot made for it....VERY well worth it if she values her husbands feelings!!!

 

[redhen]

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I know, even people who keep their homes super clean with pets inside...when I can go in there and smell the 'pet odor' everytime. My DH would have a holy cow if I brought an animal inside our home and he would most likey kick it like a football out the front door...and he has done that before...
A man that has issues like this doesn't always mean he is a control freak.....My dh has lots of issues with animals and me but in no way is my DH controlling. Your husband has concerns and feelings too and they should be respected as yours should be. That is why you should both have lots of communications and then MORE communications on finding a solution. Anyone telling you to kick him to the curb is not giving you good advice IMO and not trying to actually HELP your situation. He has issues so try and help him deal with it. Don't be demanding or have the 'show you the door' attitude with him...that is not the way to solve a problem in a marriage. Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high...people aren't willing to 'give' to their partners feelings and think they are just being mean, don't love you, etc.....

The man deserves to live comfortably as you do and I don't think you should have to get rid of your dogs but putting them outside would be a big plus.

Some men deal with things differntly than others. Find a way to help him through this and find a way to get him to compramise with you. I know it seems you are having the short end of the stick here but if you value your marriage at all you will go above and beyond what is required to keep a happy marriage.

..and I am not saying find a way to make JUST him happy...you have to find a way to keep you BOTH happy =-)

...and I bet putting those dogs OUTSIDE will help tremendously!!!!! And yes you can put them outside. I have a tiny dog that lives outside. You could fix them up a run, a house, and a nice cozy spot outside...and still bring them in to love on but let them live outside.

Ouchie! He kicked an animal like a football?..

That upsets me very much. Sorry.

Is he always that violent when something happens he dosent like? Please be careful...

 

[chicks4kids]

I think that if the dog is 17 it may be losing it's bladder control. It's not impossible. My cat lost his bladder control at age 17 so bad that it was best to put him down. If it is uncontrollable for the dog, it's not fair he be punished or repremanded.

 

[redhen]

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Yeah, putting a 17 year old dog that's never spent more than a few minutes outside sounds like an excellent idea, she'd be better off putting it to sleep than to traumatize it like that.
The young dogs I could compromise on if it were me...maybe they spend the day outside and sleep in crates indoors at night or something but the old dog should not be put to live outside no matter what.

The dog would be just fine. It most likely would be happier outside. It could have a nice fenced in 'housy' spot made for it....VERY well worth it if she values her husbands feelings!!!

What about HER feelings? Why are his feelings more imporatnt? Dont you see..cant you see?...

 

[LegHorn-BusHorn]

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I own the house and two of the dogs were here already and then I got another that some one needed to get rid of. I also had two indoor/outdoor cats when he moved in with me. I do not say my dogs don't stink, MG they probably do! I know many people who own dogs in houses that do stink and many that don't. Only a very perticular person that has never been around dogs or cats could possible smell. Yes, dogs do smell, but mine get bathes every week in the summer. Sorry not "getting rid of the mutts" No disrepect, you do have a point and I was looking for a couple people not on "myside" so I can just see how some others feel. Thanks for the imput.