For a pistol I recommend a Walther PPK .380. I also have wide hands with short fingers and the ppk fits my hand like it was custom made for me. Its small enough to carry comfortably but has enough power to get the job done. I also use a ruger .357. I shoot.38 with it. Its small enough to fit my hand has the right balance and is lovely to shoot whethor Im target practicing with wadcutters.38's or .357"s. I know you will get lots of rifle advice but thought I would add my 2 cents on the pistols because I know how hard it can be to find a nice pistol that feels good and balanced in your hands. It took me awhile to find a handgun I was really comfortable with